When does it stop being a helping hand, and become nepotism? My grand daughter is coming up to primary school age, and the best school is over subscribed. The said school is in her catchment area, but there is always a lottery for places. But I do know all of the board of governors, as personal friends. My daughter has not asked me directly to do anything, but I do know that she would be hurt if I didn't. I thought about it very hard, and I know that it is unfair to others. But is any more unfair that I was able to pay fully for both my daughters university educations. Or to be able to pay their daily living expenses, while they got non paying internships. It is after all what you are expected to do as a parent, too do the best you can for your children. This weekend I'll be making some telephone calls, and having some discreet meals/drinks.