So I had a wonderful dinner with my mother, two of my sisters, one of their husbands and some of my nieces and nephews last night. Very pleasant. In the middle of appetizers, my mom (step mom) corners me and shoves a check in my hand and tells me that this is for all the flight expenses, car rentals etc. for when I flew down to GA when my dad died last week. Should I rip it up and trash it, or do you think she would be insulted if I didn't cash it? At a loss what to do. Don't feel it's right to take it.