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Turning in a family member
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DollFaceDork
macrumors 6502
Innocent until proven guilty.
If I knew they were guilty I would try and persuade them to turn themselves in.
If not, yes I would.
If I knew they were guilty I would try and persuade them to turn themselves in.
If not, yes I would.
maflynn
macrumors Broadwell
Of course, what happens if I turned my back and did nothing and they then did something even worse. I couldn't forgive myself for allowing someone else to get hurt.
As painful as it may be in turning in a family member, it prevents others from getting hurt and perhaps allows the guilty party to seek help and change the course of his/her life.
Shrink
macrumors G3
That ^^^ says it for me.
OP asked about serious crime that harms others. As maflynn says, IMO we have a responsibility to protect others if we are aware of a potential foe harm in advance.
A truly horrifying choice to have to make, but I think the correct action is clear.
GoCubsGo
macrumors Nehalem
robbieduncan
Moderator emeritus
Everyone out there is guilty of something, even if it's relatively minor like speeding by a tiny amount on the motorways, dropping an apple core in flowers the park (this is littering even if it is biodegradable) etc. So it'd have to be something major.
Shrink
macrumors G3
I believe OP (above) was referring to a serious crime of violence - not dropping an apple core in the flowers in the park. Certainly dropping a dime on a family member, or anyone for that matter, for speeding a tiny amount would be excessively strict behavior. But that was not the behavior to which the OP referred.🙂
One thing to think about is if your family member was capable of committing such a serious crime, he/she would also be quite prepared to murder YOU
charlesbronsen
macrumors 6502a
ucfgrad93
macrumors Core
If there was no question that the family member committed one of the crimes above then yes -- absolutely.
However, I think such clarity is rarely the case. If there is any doubt, I think family in general will give the other member the benefit of the doubt and go to great pains to defend and/or cover up a crime.
0098386
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Shrink
macrumors G3
How might you do that? Telling them that it's not nice to rape and murder? How might you go about being sure that they didn't engage in the behavior in the future?
And what about the victims of your hypothetical family member's crimes. And their loved ones.
No consequences for the perpetrator other than you "dealing" with the situation?
I am not suggesting that turning in a family member would be anything less than devastating to both you and the individual. But the crimes that OP uses as examples are not crimes that lend themselves to a family member "dealing" with the perpetrator.
I knew of a similar case... have you tried finding a contact person she could confide in and help her with it (i am talking of an adult) could be a school consellor.... or something who you know is trustable. 🙂
For murder,rape,kidnapping definitely, drug trafficking depends on the circumstances etc.
steviem
macrumors 68020
Maybe the OP could tell us what kind of crime it was, it's do much easier to judge when you know.
