2. Don't tell people not to expect an answer.
the OWZ anD CRUCIAL dont work , becouse they bring they instability
Get the RAM from OWC. I purchased their RAM for my aluminum MacBook and it is working perfectly. It took me about 15 minutes to install the new 4 GB RAM and I purchased a Newer Technology toolset from them to do it. They also have a video on how to install RAM in the new MacBooks. OWC's customer service is top notch too.
the reports of unstable RAM were not limited to OWC and Crucial, you just heard about those two brands the most since they are by far the two biggest 3rd party providers of RAM for macs.
the firmware update a while (couple months?) ago took care of the issues with 3rd party RAM upgrades in the macbooks and macbook pros.