There's actual skeumorphism (the concept of the trash can, the iTunes play button, Finder folder, etc) and then there's gaudy skeumorphism and textures (Game Center, iCal, iOS Calendar, Reminders, etc).
It's safe to assume that the skeumorphism people are discussing here belongs to the gaudy kind. The kind that hampers functionality.
Where the actual ends and where the gaudy starts then? You can argue: "when the functionality is not compromised". Well then personally I believe that the reminders app is perfectly functional and the skeuomorphic approach of it actually makes it fun to use. Also in what aspect iOS calendar is skeuomorphic? And if you define gaudy the use of textures dont forget that Macos was using brushed metal as a standard texture for a long long time without anyone complain for limitation in functionality.