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My wife is big (200 lbs), but I married for love and not necessarily looks.
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Same here, in a sense. I met the lady who would become my wife while still dating the above ~400 lb. woman. Were I going strictly by size, the 400-pounder had my future wife beat by well over 100 pounds at the time. But my future wife was more intelligent and level-headed, not to mention cuter in the face and better proportioned.