But what's your guess? what wrong could a guy do that will upset someone that much? I don't think i did anything bad.
It sounds like she doesn't have much to say to you right now. You've been together a year, so you know her well enough to know that something's up. Don't jump to conclusions. Give her space. Send her a message/something you know she'll get and read asking if you can meet for coffee/whatever in a couple of days time. Give her space Then talk it over in a couple of days when you meet and the air has cleared a bit, hopefully she'll be ready to let you know what's going on then.Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia;
dispensing it is a way of wishing the past from the disposal--wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts, and
recycling it for more than it's worth.
But trust me, I'm the sunscreen.
How old are you two if you don't mind me asking?
I won't say, but i've just finished uni and she's in her last year in uni. we came to uni straight after school.
The bad news is that you could have (unwittingly) done anything of a million things
You won't tell anyone how old you are but you will come here asking for relationship advice in hopes that a pack of strangers can tell you what is wrong with a girl none of us knows? Ok then ... right-o.
Your girl is done with you. Eventually she'll break up with you but in order to do that she needs to find the time to do it. Sure, you think it's a quick process, but if you're here getting all emotional about it then chances are she knows you're going to consume her with all of your pain after she does dump you. The time it takes for a woman to dump a guy who is over emotional can be rough. She has little time right now so breaking up with you is basically on her to-do list for when stuff settles down.
I bet her hopes are if she treats you like dirt you'll just dump her. That is easier and that is what many men and women do.
And whoever said that chances are you did something wrong, women can find 100 things a guy does wrong before he even gets up and showers in the morning. We're built to somehow detect the stupidest crap in the world. You get out of bed and somehow her hand is hanging off the bed which causes it to lightly tap the night table ... you're the jerk who purposely hurt her hand! Or you go to take a shower and the slight breeze that you feel when someone walks by you gives her a chill and now she's cold. You're the uncaring person that she is ultimately going to be pissed off at for the rest of the morning. The wind blows in another direction without notice, your fault. The milk is placed in the fridge label in, your fault. She takes a shower and soap is in her eyes, your fault. Shall I continue? Probably not.
Unfortunately at your young age (guessing around 18), you feel deeply for this girl and when or if she dumps you it will be rough. You may even be back here talking about how your life is over. Bottom line, your life won't be over. Many of us have been there.
Even marrying the wrong person and losing everything or being in a long term relationship and losing everything is not life ending. Even if it costs tens of thousands of dollars to get rid of someone, still not life-ending. Life feels over but trust me, healing happens and you move forward. Losing some girl you've known for a year, not totally life ending.
Best of luck to you, really. It certainly sounds like she's just going to treat you like ass until you dump or or until she has the time to deal with the backlash of emotions you probably emit after she says goodbye.
Seconding this. Women expect men to know what's wrong with them. If you haven't done anything wrong (or don't remember doing anything wrong) then it's likely she wants to move on (i.e., dump you).
Ignore all the replies. My wife does that from time to time. Usually because I pissed her off without knowing. Have a heart to heart with her. Until than stop the worst case scenario thinking. I understand it's kinda hard before the talk.
Damn, I hope you had boxing gloves on, or those punches'll leave a bruise. You're comin' out swingin' today, aren't you?
OP, listen to Jessica, for she is wise when it comes to honesty, but dont have a conversation with her already defeated. Stay confident, express your feelings, and wear a cup.
Wait wait I didn't find that bad. Was it bad? Speaking as a woman, I mean biologically I am one, I thought it was good thinking. Women will blame a man for just about anything they can. I am generalizing, I know. I may not be like that and there are others like me I am sure, but that's the majority I'm sure. She is probably buying time. That sounds harsh but so is ignoring the **** out of your boyfriend in a public place with your friends around. I would be embarrassed if I were him and embarrassing me is probably the worst idea ever.
OP I did not mean to be harsh. UN DE has pointed out that I came out swinging but I was being very honest with you. You want to know what is up and frankly you're a stranger and so is she. We don't know what is what until we have both sides and then somewhere in the middle is the actual truth. I'm just saying really. I meant no harm.