Er ... the bleeding heart meme doesn't work on me.
There is a slight difference between me thinking along those lines and deciding to use charity to alleviate such a situation, versus having my money stolen from me by fiat.
Indeed. In my mind, one is very effective at improving my well-being, the other is not.
I don't advocate for helping others based on a bleeding heart, I want everybody to be forced to help others because it promotes a living situation that benefits ME. And not in the too-lazy-to-work sense, which is probably what comes to mind first for some, but in the sense of not having to worry (much) about crime, not having to worry at all where my next meal will come from, not having to worry about who will have enough money to buy products from the company I work for, not having to worry about the entirety of my assets getting wiped out if I get cancer...
In a truly every-person-for-themselves setup like you seem to advocate for, I bet I'd have less income than I do now but would have to spend more than I do now for protection and basic services and such. I don't mind my money being stolen from me by fiat if I get back value greater than that money.
Here's how I look at it - I get a paycheck every two weeks. After deductions and whatnot, about 20% of that goes to the feds. 2% to sales taxes, about 3% to property taxes. So 25% is "gone." Which is what people advocating for reduced taxes and government are probably thinking they'd simply get to keep themselves, and they can buy 33% more stuff, whether it's retirement savings or cars or whatever. But I think they'd have to actually spend MORE than 25% of their old income to maintain their lifestyles, not to mention they'd possibly have less income to begin with.
Efficiency is good. I'd love to see increased efficiency and accountability in the spend of tax money at all levels of government. There's even some things I think shouldn't get spent on at all. And of course there's some things I think should get MORE spending.
But I don't for a minute think that "everybody for themselves" would produce a living situation that only but the very, very few would enjoy. Giving women, and men, time off for family benefits me and you. Enforcing equal opportunity employment benefits me and you. Temporary Assistance for Needy Families benefits me and you. Social Security and gay marriage benefits me and you.