Help Me Catch A Cheating Spouse!

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    I have suspicions that my wife may be cheating on me. She uses a PC and surfs the net on Firefox. She has months of history on there untouched, is there anyway to read any of the message or emails she has sent or anything through the history?
     
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    GoCubsGo

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    For christ's sake, just talk to her. WTF is the world coming to where communication goes out the door and people feel the urge to ask for help with their marriage online?

    And no, you can't read her e-mails through her history. Get a spy program, one intended for children or over zealous spouses.
     
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    pdqgp

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    if you suspect it, hire a private detective. well worth it. my wife is a divorce lawyer and sees way too many people try it themselves and just waste time, create anxiety, more stress between the two parties. if she's banging someone, you'll find out within 7-10 days with the right sleuth on the case.
     
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    Darth.Titan

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    To answer your question, no you can't read any emails she's sent using the browser history. If she's using webmail you could check to see if she's saved her password in the browser and use it to log into her account. The easiest thing to do though would be to install a keylogger to record her keystrokes.

    That being said, jessica. makes a valid point.
     
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    Chundles

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    If she's hot I'll offer myself as bait.
     
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    Mighty nice of you to volunteer. :p


    OP, as was suggested above, you could install a Keylogger or hire a PI. Using a keylogger may cause issues down the road. Suggest the PI route.

    But before that, wouldn't just talking to her first be a good idea? Who knows, it could be a huge misunderstanding.
     
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    You need to talk to her, buddy. I think rummaging through her private stuff is effed, personally.
     
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    lbro

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    If you can't even talk to her about this than you shouldn't be married. Seriously, there's definitely problems in your marriage because A) you suspect she's cheating on you (not being able to trust each other is very harmful for a marriage) and B) you can't even talk to her about it.
     
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    PM me. I can get you her emails if you want. I will most likely use a program called Team Viewer. Will be able to access her computer remotely and then work my magic. :) Can also install a keylogger for you that will email you once a day with everything she types into her computer.
     
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    lionheartednyhc

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    Do this. This seems like the best idea, clearly.
     
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    Because you use a Mac and she uses a PC doesn't mean she is cheating on you =P
     
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    No offense, but opening up your computer to someone on the net whom you do not know is risky. Keep that in mind.

    Again, this is not personal against olletsocmit, just a general warning.
     
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    Successful relationships are built around open and honest communication.

    Violating her privacy and personal space will yield information, thoughts and images in your mind you will never be able to forget or purge, regardless of what you find. This course of action leads to ruin regardless. If you find she is cheating, you will lose your relationship. If she finds you are snooping, you will lose your relationship.

    Spying is the action of someone looking to end a relationship, not save it.
     
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    roadbloc

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    This. Seriously, you should just talk to her. Spying on her is a selfish thing to do. Show how much you love her and show how much it means to you and talk.
     
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    ...if you want every sordid detail about what she likes about the other guy, what she doesn't like about you. You may be in for a world of hurt and better off not knowing specifics.
     
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    After reading your post, I'd probably sympathize with you wife, to be honest.
     
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    I think you need to make that text bigger and more obvious.

    I couldn't think of anything worse than spying on her instead of talking to her...

    For all we know the OP could be some a total control freak who doesn't let his wife do anything without his say so.


    I also can't believe people are offering to actively help.
     
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    'Dawg speaks the truthiest of truths. Pay heed.
     
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    Yeah, like cheating on him :rolleyes:
     
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    'Talking' doesn't always work. Relationship are built on mutual honesty/trust not one-sided ones. People can be good liars and sometimes need to be caught red handed. OP can either hire a PI, do the keylogger thing or a stakeout.
     
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    If by talking you mean getting them to admit they are cheating, then yes, people are good liars. But if all you are looking for is a way to prove something and say "aha, caught you", then the relationship is over already anyway.

    I said it before, spying is the action of someone seeking to end a relationship, not save it. Talking is not meant to get a confession, it is meant to get past the "act" and uncover the root problems that need to be addressed in a relationship. If it is worth saving, it is worthing doing it in a constructive way, not by joining in with destructive behavior yourself.

    The OP needs to decide if he just wants to catch his wife so he can end things, or if he truly wants to salvage his relationship.
     
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    quagmire

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    We have no evidence that his suspicions are valid. All we have is that she uses a PC and is surfing the web. Real good basis to think a spouse is cheating. Where is she going exactly?
     
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    This is starting to be the pinnacle of human decadence.
     
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    sushi

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    Spot on Dawg.

    This is very good advice -- especially your last sentence.
     
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    So without any evidence you automatically believe some guy on the internet?

    I guess you don't understand the term "for all we know"?
     
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