I am graduating college in the next couple of weeks and as luck would have it, I've sat around and struggled with the whole "after party" thing for weeks now. Being that I technically graduated in January and I am already deep into Grad school, and that I am an adult (over 25), I didn't put much thought into having people see me graduate that weren't related. But now, in talking to my parents, they would like me to set up a dinner. Places I've called for the guest list I have range from about $20-$40 per person. That is for everything. I have narrowed the list down to 30 people, and the place I've picked to eat is about $24 a head. There is no limit to how many people can see me walk, which is awesome.
Now for the questions.
Of the 30 people there are 14 family members that I know can make it. 6 others will be watching my cousin walk up north so they're out. If I run it and invite everyone, the charge will be over $600 for me. If I do just the family then it's $300. I can make sure the invitations are customized in a way where only the family will see the one that will talk about the dinner, is that rude? I don't want to be rude at all or even hurt anyone's feelings so now I'm asking the masses.
If it weren't just the family and I was picking and choosing between friends I could understand how that would suck, but if it is just family then what is the level of rudeness of that?
Now for the questions.
Of the 30 people there are 14 family members that I know can make it. 6 others will be watching my cousin walk up north so they're out. If I run it and invite everyone, the charge will be over $600 for me. If I do just the family then it's $300. I can make sure the invitations are customized in a way where only the family will see the one that will talk about the dinner, is that rude? I don't want to be rude at all or even hurt anyone's feelings so now I'm asking the masses.
If it weren't just the family and I was picking and choosing between friends I could understand how that would suck, but if it is just family then what is the level of rudeness of that?