I am graduating college in the next couple of weeks and as luck would have it, I've sat around and struggled with the whole "after party" thing for weeks now. Being that I technically graduated in January and I am already deep into Grad school, and that I am an adult (over 25), I didn't put much thought into having people see me graduate that weren't related. But now, in talking to my parents, they would like me to set up a dinner. Places I've called for the guest list I have range from about $20-$40 per person. That is for everything. I have narrowed the list down to 30 people, and the place I've picked to eat is about $24 a head. There is no limit to how many people can see me walk, which is awesome. Now for the questions. Of the 30 people there are 14 family members that I know can make it. 6 others will be watching my cousin walk up north so they're out. If I run it and invite everyone, the charge will be over $600 for me. If I do just the family then it's $300. I can make sure the invitations are customized in a way where only the family will see the one that will talk about the dinner, is that rude? I don't want to be rude at all or even hurt anyone's feelings so now I'm asking the masses. If it weren't just the family and I was picking and choosing between friends I could understand how that would suck, but if it is just family then what is the level of rudeness of that?