I wouldn’t go back to a smaller phone again. I had the 6+ and for a few years before that I was using Samsung phablets. I got the iPhone X over the iPhone 8+ because of the new technology and the low that the screen was the same size. I could not wait to switch to the XS max when it came out. I couldn’t stand the X. Far too small. I will always have the biggest iPhone available.
I’ve had larger phones - had all the pluses from 6-8, and kept the 8+ through the X release. I did get an XR that next year, which was a pretty decent sized phone as well. I had toyed with the XS Max, but found it too large/heavy at the time.
I can’t remember if I switched to a regular pro with the 12 or 13, but I know I had ordered both with the 14s, and went in to the store for pickup and cancelled the max before picking up because I found it too heavy. This year my plan was to just go with a plus because they were ditching the notch, but I decided to go pro max due to the macro camera (which I actually use a pretty decent bit), and then I just didn’t feel comfortable and was afraid to go past the return date with ATT, so I wound up with the regular pro. I just kept wondering if I would’ve adjusted if I’d given it a chance. Then, one daughter got a plus, and one got a pro max, and I realized I really wanted the bigger screen - just needed to give it a fair shot.
I was reading on the phone last night realizing that now it doesn’t look or seem big to me at all. I still notice the weight of it, and wish we could have the best of all the worlds (all the awesome features in a bigger phone that weighed next to nothing - lol), but I think for me the pros are definitely outweighing the con of the weight.