I think I've found a somewhat reasonable solution and I am happy with it.
I use Macs Fan Control and I set both fans to work based on CPU Proximity.
I then set the fans to start at 35C and max temperature at 75C for both.
This could probably be tweaked further, but by doing this I no longer get ANY random fan bursts at all and my overall temps have went down to 50-60C. They spike to 70-80ish sometimes but go back quickly.
My fans are working much closer to 2-3K RPM like this but this noise is not noticeable. It's not 100% silent but it's a far cry from being noisy or bothersome. I monitor my battery and try to keep it under 40C at all times.
So far my battery is mostly sitting at 37C with this setup.
Normally, your fans would be sitting down at 1k RPM ranges and they would let the cpu spike up very hard. Then they blast away to cool it down and this cycle repeats. This, to me, is a worse user experience than having the fans active more to keep temps low overall all the time. The 10th gen CPUs are hot.
Normally, just by using Brave browser with some tabs open I'd get high temps and fans blasting sometimes, now in the same conditions I am sitting with many tabs open, discord active, ableton 10 live active, at 52C CPU proximity and cpu cores moving between 55-65C, sometimes spiking but mostly around that range.
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