So, if note is on my desktop, then i delete it from the desktop then... is that right?
Yes. I would recommend closing out of stickies and then deleting.
Don't think you can close Stickies and then delete one. What you describe works for me. I created a new one, deleted it as you did, then closed. When I went back in, that note was not there. I believe that the notes you create are stored in a StickiesDatabase file. Settings for Stickies are in the com.apple.stickies.plist file, and perhaps that is where you can solve this problem. Since the actual entries are in that database file, getting rid of corrupted settings should not delete your notes.Still trying to delete stickie notes (delete a few, keep a few).
How do you close out of stickies and then delete?
I've tried to delete note by clicking on upper left corner, getting to the "Don't Save" button, I choose that, the note disappears, but when I restart Stickies, it is still there! Ugh.
Don't think you can close Stickies and then delete one. What you describe works for me. I created a new one, deleted it as you did, then closed. When I went back in, that note was not there. I believe that the notes you create are stored in a StickiesDatabase file. Settings for Stickies are in the com.apple.stickies.plist file, and perhaps that is where you can solve this problem. Since the actual entries are in that database file, getting rid of corrupted settings should not delete your notes.
First, restart the computer. If that doesn't solve it (or you've already tried that) then go after that plist file. It is in your User's Library folder, that is: HD/Users/YourUserName/Library/Preferences. Find that file and drag it to the Desktop. Now restart Stickies. Your Mac will make a new plist file set to defaults. Does that do the trick?