Best way to set up email for email & home?

[eciytnim]

I'm using OSX mail as my default mail client right now. I want to be able to use my iPhone for email as well, however I can't figure out how to set up the imap or pop options the way I want. Basically, I want my mail client to get email as usual. If I'm out, I want my phone to tell me when I get a new email. If I get an email on my phone and read it, I'd like for the same message at home to be marked as read. Ideally, I'd like it so if I check my mail at home, it does not get sent to my phone, or if it does, have it already marked as read if it has been read.

The way I have it now is that it all depends on which I check first. If I get an email at home and check my mail on my phone, the message doesn't even show up (this is ok). If I check my mail on my phone first it doesn't show up on my home email at all although I'd like for it to.

Currently I have both set up as pop accounts. I dislike how Mail handles gmail imap accounts. Any advice? For reference, I'm using Mail to read email from gmail. I know it's just a matter of playing with settings on various clients and accounts, but I can't figure it out.

 

[miles01110]

If I'm out, I want my phone to tell me when I get a new email. If I get an email on my phone and read it, I'd like for the same message at home to be marked as read.

This is what an IMAP account does.

Ideally, I'd like it so if I check my mail at home, it does not get sent to my phone

Not possible if you want #1, as this is what a POP account does.

...or if it does, have it already marked as read if it has been read.

IMAP.

The way I have it now is that it all depends on which I check first. If I get an email at home and check my mail on my phone, the message doesn't even show up (this is ok). If I check my mail on my phone first it doesn't show up on my home email at all although I'd like for it to.

I dislike how Mail handles gmail imap accounts.

Don't understand this at all. Mail handles IMAP accounts pretty much the same as every other mail client.

 

[laser310]

you can fudge it with POP3

that's what i've been doing for like three years, because i've been too lazy to set up imap.

i just have both my home client, and my iphone client set up so the emails do not get deleted on the server for two weeks.

that way, everytime you log into the mail server, each device sees all the new messages, and downloads them, even if they have already been downloaded by the other device.

where this breaks down, is with sent messages - you will only have a copy on the device on which you composed, and sent, the message.

if it's really important to have a copy of something i've sent on both devices, i just cc myself, but honestly, pretty much nothing i do is that important...