I searched long and hard the other day with a similiar problem. I even read your post. Then I stumbled across a solution on my own. Here it is.
Have your phone locate the mac with bluetooth
Then go back under the bluetooth menu and highlight you mac. While highlighted choose the option tab.
One of the options will be to send a card.
You can send vCards via bluetooth. You can only do 10 at a time though.
It is the only way I have found to get all my addresses into my mac.