I'm just going to lump this all in under the general description of "communication anxiety" - particularly oral communication anxiety.
I feel like I'm "above average" when it comes to written communication. I have time to think and articulate my thoughts in a precise manner. I'm able to effectively and accurately convey my thoughts and feelings.
However, when it comes to oral communication, I really struggle at times. I have no problems speaking directly with my friends and family - but when it comes to small talk, speaking with strangers, co-workers, superiors at work - I struggle at times. I actually fear/avoid it to a degree. I have thoughts and things I want to say running through my head, but when it comes to the conversations I often "draw a blank", forget what I was going to say, nervously talk in circles, feel anxious/nervous, etc. It sucks.
I'm on the brink of a nice promotion at work, but one of the caveats of this new position is that it is more of a leadership role. I need to be able to speak to new hires, coach co-workers, talk/deliver information in front of groups of co-workers, run small meetings, etc. Just thinking about doing those things makes me nervous. And it shouldn't. I know I'm not going to die, I know I'm knowledgeable and capable when it comes to what we're doing at work...I just can't shake that anxiety. And it really holds me back from excelling at work. I want to work through this barrier.
Any tips, suggestions, some type of medication even? Sadly I feel like if I had like 2 beers or 2 bong rips before work it would really take the edge off and this wouldn't be as big of an issue (of course I'll never do that). Admittedly weed does curb my general anxiety/anxiousness quite a bit, but I don't see that as being a permanent solution.
Thoughts?
I feel like I'm "above average" when it comes to written communication. I have time to think and articulate my thoughts in a precise manner. I'm able to effectively and accurately convey my thoughts and feelings.
However, when it comes to oral communication, I really struggle at times. I have no problems speaking directly with my friends and family - but when it comes to small talk, speaking with strangers, co-workers, superiors at work - I struggle at times. I actually fear/avoid it to a degree. I have thoughts and things I want to say running through my head, but when it comes to the conversations I often "draw a blank", forget what I was going to say, nervously talk in circles, feel anxious/nervous, etc. It sucks.
I'm on the brink of a nice promotion at work, but one of the caveats of this new position is that it is more of a leadership role. I need to be able to speak to new hires, coach co-workers, talk/deliver information in front of groups of co-workers, run small meetings, etc. Just thinking about doing those things makes me nervous. And it shouldn't. I know I'm not going to die, I know I'm knowledgeable and capable when it comes to what we're doing at work...I just can't shake that anxiety. And it really holds me back from excelling at work. I want to work through this barrier.
Any tips, suggestions, some type of medication even? Sadly I feel like if I had like 2 beers or 2 bong rips before work it would really take the edge off and this wouldn't be as big of an issue (of course I'll never do that). Admittedly weed does curb my general anxiety/anxiousness quite a bit, but I don't see that as being a permanent solution.
Thoughts?