iPhone XS Max How to deal with buyers remorse?

[okan]

Here is the thing. Whatever i buy or gifted, i get this buyers remorse feeling. This mostly happens to me with Apple products.(Should be something with the $$)

Last week, i was gifted XS Max, Silver. I didn't open the box for 5 days. I was thinking like if Silver is the right color...So i asked here at the forum about it, read the comments on youtube color comparison videos. Seemed like a lot of people loved the Silver color so i opened the box. Wow...I thought it was a great phone/color combo. I still do. But, after using it for a day i thought the phone was too big for my needs/hands/pockets.(switched from a non-plus iphone 7) Then i've started to think about switching it with XS. But deep inside, i knew that i would also feel that same remorse. So i didn't. I kept the Max. Guess what? I'm sitting here in a cafe and still thinking about the same thing. All this nonsense because of couple of inches. Why can't i just move the f. on and just be grateful that i have gifted a nice phone which most people can't even afford it. Am i stupid or what..

Next week or so, i have to get myself a new Macbook pro..now i'm trying to decide if i should get the 13 or 15inch one. And i literally afraid to do so because of this problem that i have.

Then I started wondering..Am i alone with this problem...Does it also happening to you? If so, how do you deal with it? I sometimes feel like i shouldn't buy any new gadget just for to not feel this way.

 

[Zxxv]

Sounds like you need to get laid. It’s an age old suggestion that has worked for many over the centuries.

 

[IndianBird]

Here is the thing. Whatever i buy or gifted, i get this buyers remorse feeling. This mostly happens to me with Apple products.(Should be something with the $$)

Last week, i was gifted XS Max, Silver. I didn't open the box for 5 days. I was thinking like if Silver is the right color...So i asked here at the forum about it, read the comments on youtube color comparison videos. Seemed like a lot of people loved the Silver color so i opened the box. Wow...I thought it was a great phone/color combo. I still do. But, after using it for a day i thought the phone was too big for my needs/hands/pockets.(switched from a non-plus iphone 7) Then i've started to think about switching it with XS. But deep inside, i knew that i would also feel that same remorse. So i didn't. I kept the Max. Guess what? I'm sitting here in a cafe and still thinking about the same thing. All this nonsense because of couple of inches. Why can't i just move the f. on and just be grateful that i have gifted a nice phone which most people can't even afford it. Am i stupid or what..

Next week or so, i have to get myself a new Macbook pro..now i'm trying to decide if i should get the 13 or 15inch one. And i literally afraid to do so because of this problem that i have.

Then I started wondering..Am i alone with this problem...Does it also happening to you? If so, how do you deal with it? I sometimes feel like i shouldn't buy any new gadget just for to not feel this way.

Sounds like you want a referral to a doctor who over prescribes Prozac.

 

[okan]

Haha. Nice one. But it doesn't work

Sounds like you need to get laid. It’s an age old suggestion that has worked for many over the centuries.

 

[austyn23]

It’s normal, going with 1000 dls in the pocket (if it fits) its not good...

Xs, Xr, Max, great tech devices, not great phones. Phones have to be portable, light and with an easy going price in case it falls, get’s stollen, lost...

 

[2984839]

I always think buyer's remorse happens when you're expecting more of an object than an object can provide. It won't provide happiness, or meaning, or even improve your life in any meaningful way. It's just a thing you will get rid of in a few years. Use it and don't worry about it.

 

[I7guy]

I think it’s a common feeling, but the idea is to not be paralyzed in life. I had buyers remorse for an hour because I didn’t get 512 on the max and then the practical side of me kicked in.

 

[now i see it]

Buyers remorse is guilt usually brought upon by purchasing something that's too expensive. It's usually the symptom of impulsive buying.
Impulsive buying is a symptom of lack of self control.

The price of the object is directly related to the degree buyer's remorse is felt. If you purchased a gum ball for $.10 cents you didn't really want, you'd just spit it out & forget about it. No big deal. If you just blew $80,000 on a totally unnecessary sorts car- buyers remorse would dig in deep and be unbearable.

It's easy to minimize the feelings of purchasing guilt (buyers remorse) — plan on purchases way in advance and only buy things you really need.

BTW- it's very disrespectful to sell a gift if the gift was given to you by someone who cares about you - without talking about it with them first.

 

[zorinlynx]

If it was a gift, why have remorse? You have something pretty cool that you didn't expect. Enjoy it, and if it's not the iPhone you want, exchange it for the one you do. I'm sure whoever gifted it to you won't care; they gave you the phone presumably to make you happy so they should expect to want you to have the exact phone you want.

 

[verito81]

Sounds like you want a referral to a doctor who over prescribes Prozac.

i understand you i did something similar around 2 years ago i bought an iphone 6 but i felt it too big so i selled i guess 2 months later and bought SE and it was the right decision at that time because i didn’t want bigger bigger than 3,5 screen now 2 years later i’m with iphone 7 and now i love it the size is all for me

 

[Seanm87]

Why not go into a store check out the XS then if you like it trade it in? You may lose some cash but F it if you’re not happy then you’re not happy. Not sure why you’re still agonising over it.

 

[nrvna76]

I don’t think it’s buyers remorse, it’s more like decision paralysis, but with the phone it wasn’t your decision.

Which color is best? What size is best? Etc. I think that may be why some of us choose Apple, less choices than in the android/windows worlds.

 

[zachlegomaniac]

I think @Seanm87 ’s advice is rock solid. Other than that - I’d move on with your life.

It seems like you’re dealing with more of an existential issue. Maybe volunteer for people who aren’t well in order to change your perspective? Write down things you are grateful for in a journal once a day. Thank the person who gave you the phone (again) and thank others in your life who you appreciate...

Regarding the MBP: take advantage of Apple’s return policy and just try it out and decide within the window.

Indecision is a decision.

 

[eyoungren]

Here is the thing. Whatever i buy or gifted, i get this buyers remorse feeling. This mostly happens to me with Apple products.(Should be something with the $$)

Last week, i was gifted XS Max, Silver. I didn't open the box for 5 days. I was thinking like if Silver is the right color...So i asked here at the forum about it, read the comments on youtube color comparison videos. Seemed like a lot of people loved the Silver color so i opened the box. Wow...I thought it was a great phone/color combo. I still do. But, after using it for a day i thought the phone was too big for my needs/hands/pockets.(switched from a non-plus iphone 7) Then i've started to think about switching it with XS. But deep inside, i knew that i would also feel that same remorse. So i didn't. I kept the Max. Guess what? I'm sitting here in a cafe and still thinking about the same thing. All this nonsense because of couple of inches. Why can't i just move the f. on and just be grateful that i have gifted a nice phone which most people can't even afford it. Am i stupid or what..

Next week or so, i have to get myself a new Macbook pro..now i'm trying to decide if i should get the 13 or 15inch one. And i literally afraid to do so because of this problem that i have.

Then I started wondering..Am i alone with this problem...Does it also happening to you? If so, how do you deal with it? I sometimes feel like i shouldn't buy any new gadget just for to not feel this way.

The only thing that happens to me is that I regret spending money I could have spent elsewhere. I have no regrets for getting something I wanted or receiving something as a gift. And since I got what I wanted (or was gifted) I'm happy with that.

That aside, I don't make large impulse buys. My family needs food, shelter and clothing.

When someone gifts you something though, you smile, say thank you, accept the gift and move along. Anything else is looking a gift-horse in the mouth. Who cares if it's not a color you would have chosen or this or that - it's something you didn't have yesterday.

But since it's yours - you can do with it what you want.

Lastly, my wife has a tendency to overthink things. That leads to chasing her own tail and it leads to unnecessary feelings. I do a similar thing, but about other stuff - not the stuff I've already made a decision on.

So, as I tell my wife…STOP THINKING!

 

[Howyalikdemapls]

I find the best solution is to try to occupy your mind with other things. I used to spend way too much time on here and Reddit. I deleted Reddit and am generally able to keep myself off MacRumors. (You could set limits on MacRumors and even have someone else you trust make a password so you literally can’t go on it if it’s that difficult). I’d try to fill my time with friends and hobbies, particularly ones that are energizing like exercise or things that make you laugh like hanging out with friends. Try to not use your phone when you don’t need it... like when you’re at home, put your phone up in your bedroom while you hang out with the fam or watch tv or clean or whatever. Interact with other people as much as possible (even if you’re an introvert), and try to be active outside as much as possible all while leaving your phone in another room or at home as much as possible.

Obviously this is very specific and may not apply to you, but this is what worked for me because I struggle with a phone addiction. I was constantly obsessed with what the next phone was gonna be even though the thing I used it most for was simply researching the next phone. Nothing will ever be perfect, so try to be happy with what you have and think about all the good aspects rather than the areas that it falls short in. That’s actually a pretty good tactic to apply to other areas of your life as well like friends and spouses.

 

[ET iPhone Home]

Here is the thing. Whatever i buy or gifted, i get this buyers remorse feeling. This mostly happens to me with Apple products.(Should be something with the $$)

Last week, i was gifted XS Max, Silver. I didn't open the box for 5 days. I was thinking like if Silver is the right color...So i asked here at the forum about it, read the comments on youtube color comparison videos. Seemed like a lot of people loved the Silver color so i opened the box. Wow...I thought it was a great phone/color combo. I still do. But, after using it for a day i thought the phone was too big for my needs/hands/pockets.(switched from a non-plus iphone 7) Then i've started to think about switching it with XS. But deep inside, i knew that i would also feel that same remorse. So i didn't. I kept the Max. Guess what? I'm sitting here in a cafe and still thinking about the same thing. All this nonsense because of couple of inches. Why can't i just move the f. on and just be grateful that i have gifted a nice phone which most people can't even afford it. Am i stupid or what..

Next week or so, i have to get myself a new Macbook pro..now i'm trying to decide if i should get the 13 or 15inch one. And i literally afraid to do so because of this problem that i have.

Then I started wondering..Am i alone with this problem...Does it also happening to you? If so, how do you deal with it? I sometimes feel like i shouldn't buy any new gadget just for to not feel this way.

I'm the same way, which is why I still have a 2011 MBA. As for the iPhone, I really like the XS and the portability. But knowing my use, I need a bigger screen, which made the XS Max decision easier. But I did go back to Apple multiple times within the 14 day return window looking at the XS to ensure I made the right decision.

In 2020, I'm going for the bigger rumored screen on the XI Pro Max. I just question if its going to be too big.
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Buyers remorse is guilt usually brought upon by purchasing something that's too expensive. It's usually the symptom of impulsive buying.
Impulsive buying is a symptom of lack of self control.

The price of the object is directly related to the degree buyer's remorse is felt. If you purchased a gum ball for $.10 cents you didn't really want, you'd just spit it out & forget about it. No big deal. If you just blew $80,000 on a totally unnecessary sorts car- buyers remorse would dig in deep and be unbearable.

It's easy to minimize the feelings of purchasing guilt (buyers remorse) — plan on purchases way in advance and only buy things you really need.

BTW- it's very disrespectful to sell a gift if the gift was given to you by someone who cares about you - without talking about it with them first.

You're definition is right on. The same feeling I had when I withdrew $50,000 from my savings and paid cash for a BMW X5 back in 2001. Sadly, no Buyer's Remorse Policy here in the State of California,. For 6 years, I loss sleep. The way I took care of it is get rid of the X5, pour another $27,500 in cash for a Lexus GS. I've had the GS for 12 yrs. to compensate for the monetary loss on the $50K and $27,500.

 

[Pipper99]

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[44267547]

When you’re purchasing something expensive, rather it be a nice car, a high-end electronic product, or whatever, buyers remorse can be a natural after-feeling, but as long as you’re justified in terms of something that you actually want and will enjoy it knowing that you can afford it, then that’s really all that matters.

 

[tps3443]

I'm the same way, which is why I still have a 2011 MBA. As for the iPhone, I really like the XS and the portability. But knowing my use, I need a bigger screen, which made the XS Max decision easier. But I did go back to Apple multiple times within the 14 day return window looking at the XS to ensure I made the right decision.

In 2020, I'm going for the bigger rumored screen on the XI Pro Max. I just question if its going to be too big.
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You're definition is right on. The same feeling I had when I withdrew $50,000 from my savings and paid cash for a BMW X5 back in 2001. Sadly, no Buyer's Remorse Policy here in the State of California,. For 6 years, I loss sleep. The way I took care of it is get rid of the X5, pour another $27,500 in cash for a Lexus GS. I've had the GS for 12 yrs. to compensate for the monetary loss on the $50K and $27,500.

The Lexus is built to last, and the Lexus is a very reliable vehicle.

90% of new Mercedes and new bmw sales are all leased. These vehicles are turned in and replaced after just the brakes and tires need replacing.

90% of new Lexus vehicles are actually sold and kept long term for good reason. They are all also pushing 200k to 400k + thousand miles fairly easily.
[doublepost=1567911797][/doublepost]I own a new iPhone 8 Plus 256GB, it is beautiful, big, and very nice!

I also own a brand new iPhone 7 128GB matte black which is extremely small and compact, and also a very nice phone.

I like having both of these as my go to users everyday.

 

[eyoungren]

When you’re purchasing something expensive, rather it be a nice car, a high-end electronic product, or whatever, buyers remorse can be a natural after-feeling, but as long as you’re justified in terms of something that you actually want and will enjoy it knowing that you can afford it, then that’s really all that matters.

I've had a lot of unjustified purchases over the years, both those I could afford and those I couldn't. While the idea of being able to justify a purchase to yourself or anyone else is laudable it's not a policy I follow with any dedication.

If I did, I wouldn't own very much of the things I do. My yardstick instead is whether a purchase is going to hurt me or my family. If it's only me, I really don't give a damn about justification if it's something I really want.

 

[ET iPhone Home]

The Lexus is built to last, and the Lexus is a very reliable vehicle.

90% of new Mercedes and new bmw sales are all leased. These vehicles are turned in and replaced after just the brakes and tires need replacing.

90% of new Lexus vehicles are actually sold and kept long term for good reason. They are all also pushing 200k to 400k + thousand miles fairly easily.
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Hey Thanks. Real quick. I know this is an iPhone forum. When I bought my X5, I thought those cars last and I had every intention in keeping it for years and years - 200K. I learned that these cars were only leased so I loss a lot of money when I traded it in after 6 years of ownership. I just wanted to get rid of it for two reasons 1. Buyers Remorse 2. Cost of Maintenance ridiculous plus my X5 started to have electrical issues. I had to get rid of it while the trade-in value was still high.

So, to justify my purchase, I am planning on keeping my Lexus GS, hopefully for another 12 years. I don't flip my cars as often as others. But I need to keep the GS as long as I can to recoup the loss on the X5. I really learned my lesson from this car purchase - never will I buy a European car.

 

[zachlegomaniac]

This is why I still have my 2013 MBP, although I really need to upgrade for work. In my head I think (mainly because it is a business expense and I “need” it to perform) about how ridiculous it is that I don’t just upgrade, but there’s that fear of feeling awful because I purchased a butterfly keyboard when something new is around the corner (always). Probably foolish and unfounded, but what can I do?

I think what some are missing in this post (aside from your anxiety regarding your next computer PURCHASE) is that this phone was a GIFT as @zorinlynx pointed out already. Can you have buyer’s remorse for something that someone gave to you as a gift? I don’t know. That’s a real question. It’s not intended to be condescending in any way.

Aside from that - great thread. I think it’s a human condition (or, at the very least, a 1st world capitalist condition) so you’re clearly not alone as exhibited in many of the responses.

 

[austyn23]

This is why I still have my 2013 MBP, although I really need to upgrade for work. In my head I think (mainly because it is a business expense and I “need” it to perform) about how ridiculous it is that I don’t just upgrade, but there’s that fear of feeling awful because I purchased a butterfly keyboard when something new is around the corner (always). Probably foolish and unfounded, but what can I do?

If your 2013 runs great and don´t slow down your work, don't do it. The warranty on new keyboards is great, 4 years; but is a failure design, wait for something more reliable.

The 2019 MBP is the first MBP I bought with "fear" to failure. I find it´s really ABSURD. Is not a cheap machine...