How you guys spend your free time and weekend?

[Retroworldnews]

I know some surely say play games ( that is me last time as Now I never gaming anymore , wanna be productive )

For me is chill around , check out more life skill , financial stuffs etc to enrich myself. EPIC now a days I tend to like stay at home. Maybe also due to my age. Just feel comfort at home.

Lastly also I want to accompany my mum as she already old. Cherish the time with her.

 

[eyoungren]

There are things I do now at 55 that are largely influenced by things that I did at 13. There are things that I did in my 20s that I no longer do, because I moved, my life changed and I don't have those contacts anymore.

But from 1983 to 2000, roleplaying games (like Advanced Dungeons & Dragons) were a very big part of my life. When I wasn't doing that, I was doing stuff on my computers that was related to it.

In 2000 I moved out of state and that broke down, partly because the group I was with kind of broke up shortly before that. Anyway, kids came along in 2003 and 2008 (I got married in 1997) and with no group to game with on weekends most of my free time was spent on internet forums, news sites and doing things with my computers that still align with roleplaying games (but not computer rpgs).

Today, with all that has happened in my life between 2000 and now I still actively keep an eye out for anyone interested in RPGs (I prefer 2nd Edition Rolemaster, 2nd Edition ShadowRun and 1st Edition MechWarrior) while still using my computer(s) to actively browse the internet for things I like and for doing things related to rpgs.

In the past couple of years I've also become a fan of finding cinematic video games with great stories and then watching complete walkthroughs on YouTube. So far I've latched on to Halo (I've see the walkthroughs on all the games), Homeworld (all the games), Firmament, Unknown 9, and Echoes of the End. It provides inspiration for the things I do related to gaming with my computer(s).

I'm also a fan of various ambient videos (with or without music) of CyberPunk 2077, Star Citizen and anything else I might find interesting on YT. Cyberpunk 2077 is also great just for background noise - lots of videos of people just walking around Night City. I know it's going to be great when video playthroughs of the complete Squadron 42 game finally start getting posted on YT. That looks to be very interesting.

My wife works weekends only and I work 100 percent from home, so she's available to talk to. As are my kids. My son graduated from Arizona State University in May so he's been looking for a job. Our car died (the only one that was still running), so it's difficult for him. With that though, everyone is now pretty much homebound.

 

[freezelighter]

Mushroom hunt 🍄🌲

 

[Retroworldnews]

There are things I do now at 55 that are largely influenced by things that I did at 13. There are things that I did in my 20s that I no longer do, because I moved, my life changed and I don't have those contacts anymore.

But from 1983 to 2000, roleplaying games (like Advanced Dungeons & Dragons) were a very big part of my life. When I wasn't doing that, I was doing stuff on my computers that was related to it.

In 2000 I moved out of state and that broke down, partly because the group I was with kind of broke up shortly before that. Anyway, kids came along in 2003 and 2008 (I got married in 1997) and with no group to game with on weekends most of my free time was spent on internet forums, news sites and doing things with my computers that still align with roleplaying games (but not computer rpgs).

Today, with all that has happened in my life between 2000 and now I still actively keep an eye out for anyone interested in RPGs (I prefer 2nd Edition Rolemaster, 2nd Edition ShadowRun and 1st Edition MechWarrior) while still using my computer(s) to actively browse the internet for things I like and for doing things related to rpgs.

In the past couple of years I've also become a fan of finding cinematic video games with great stories and then watching complete walkthroughs on YouTube. So far I've latched on to Halo (I've see the walkthroughs on all the games), Homeworld (all the games), Firmament, Unknown 9, and Echoes of the End. It provides inspiration for the things I do related to gaming with my computer(s).

I'm also a fan of various ambient videos (with or without music) of CyberPunk 2077, Star Citizen and anything else I might find interesting on YT. Cyberpunk 2077 is also great just for background noise - lots of videos of people just walking around Night City. I know it's going to be great when video playthroughs of the complete Squadron 42 game finally start getting posted on YT. That looks to be very interesting.

My wife works weekends only and I work 100 percent from home, so she's available to talk to. As are my kids. My son graduated from Arizona State University in May so he's been looking for a job. Our car died (the only one that was still running), so it's difficult for him. With that though, everyone is now pretty much homebound.

So end of the day you still gaming? As mention I don't. I feel actually waste time, I mean well is fun now a days play online with people from literally all over the world. Some Stream will playing become streamer hope to be next Big streamers. Some even been sponsor having free games to play etc beside earning but well I don't bother partly I feel bored after watching these streamer play games. The Only streamer I watch a bit longer in his stream is iShowSpeed. He is a Streamer which No body will be like him. No doubt sometimes he play games online beside do world tour. He not mainly only just play game thus make me watch his stream a bit longer if I have spare time. Remember why I never play games? Because I kinda bored of it and wanna be Productive. Come watching people stream actually is ' Unproductive " This is why I mention, I only watch iShowspeed stream " If " I have free time and I don't watch entire his live stream. You may ask me why now never play games? For me i feel is like " repeat " get more kills , upgrade this and that. " Likewise game like GTA. I also play before few series. Drive car around do repeat mission , earn more money thus can do more stuff inside the game. I mean Games are just like that.


When come watching videos. I more like to watch Science , History type of Videos on Youtube. At least I not wasting my time watching it along the way I learn something new. Even now lol , i always think of " time travel " is it possible.
Come music I still love Electronic dance music. Always will see the latest mix from those DJ on their official Youtube channel. Sometime I watch live Music festival too via Youtube. As mention, now a days I feel more comfort at home. Partly also my job now can work from home. Lastly maybe due to age. Sometimes you just need more rest.

Mushroom hunt 🍄🌲

what is mushroom hunt?

 

[eyoungren]

So end of the day you still gaming? As mention I don't. I feel actually waste time, I mean well is fun now a days play online with people from literally all over the world. Some Stream will playing become streamer hope to be next Big streamers. Some even been sponsor having free games to play etc beside earning but well I don't bother partly I feel bored after watching these streamer play games. The Only streamer I watch a bit longer in his stream is iShowSpeed. He is a Streamer which No body will be like him. No doubt sometimes he play games online beside do world tour. He not mainly only just play game thus make me watch his stream a bit longer if I have spare time. Remember why I never play games? Because I kinda bored of it and wanna be Productive. Come watching people stream actually is ' Unproductive " This is why I mention, I only watch iShowspeed stream " If " I have free time and I don't watch entire his live stream. You may ask me why now never play games? For me i feel is like " repeat " get more kills , upgrade this and that. " Likewise game like GTA. I also play before few series. Drive car around do repeat mission , earn more money thus can do more stuff inside the game. I mean Games are just like that.


When come watching videos. I more like to watch Science , History type of Videos on Youtube. At least I not wasting my time watching it along the way I learn something new. Even now lol , i always think of " time travel " is it possible.
Come music I still love Electronic dance music. Always will see the latest mix from those DJ on their official Youtube channel. Sometime I watch live Music festival too via Youtube. As mention, now a days I feel more comfort at home. Partly also my job now can work from home. Lastly maybe due to age. Sometimes you just need more rest.

If I had a group of people to game with, I'd be doing that. Unfortunately, in the past 25 years there's only been two people I've managed to game with for a couple weeks and that was one on one - no group. Neither person ultimately meshed with my outlook and style. And by 'game with' I mean, sit down crack open the books, pencils, character sheets and dice for an RPG, with one person being the GameMaster/DungeonMaster. So mostly, I'm just on my computer doing my own thing that's aligned with that stuff (mainly writing).

I'm a product of how I was raised. My father was relentless in trying to make sure that every second of my weekends were filled with labor. Of course, he had free labor in me, so there I was cleaning the pool, mowing the lawn, trimming trees, etc. More than once he also put my friends to work, who'd been invited over to have a good time and were not expecting to be put to work trimming trees or mowing lawns.

So, I learned to resent work unless I am being paid for it. And I am happy when I have nothing to do or am doing something I want to do. Lots of people would consider me a very big time waster, but I don't care. It's my time and if I just want to bang around on the internet or whatever…well, I'm an adult. I can do that and no one (especially my dad now) can tell me I can't.

I have a home, I've been married 25+ years to the same person and I have two kids. I have a job and with my wife's job it pays our bills. I work hard, I'm loyal to my wife, the bills are paid, need are met. So if I want to 'waste time' on my time, I will. Being 'productive', to me, is highly overrated. Being 'productive' is usually pushed by people who can't stand to be idle for even one second and who must, for some reason, make sure no else is idle. My dad was that way.

I don't watch streamers on YT. I watch videos of people who've already played through a game and recorded it, then posted it on YT. I don't want commentary or anything else. I just want to watch a game being played through - especially if I've never seen it before.

As to music, I'm a big fan of Celtic/Gaelic music and it's offshoots, as well as ambient music. I'm a heavy user of the Dronezone channel on SOMA FM.

 

[Retroworldnews]

If I had a group of people to game with, I'd be doing that. Unfortunately, in the past 25 years there's only been two people I've managed to game with for a couple weeks and that was one on one - no group. Neither person ultimately meshed with my outlook and style. And by 'game with' I mean, sit down crack open the books, pencils, character sheets and dice for an RPG, with one person being the GameMaster/DungeonMaster. So mostly, I'm just on my computer doing my own thing that's aligned with that stuff (mainly writing).

I'm a product of how I was raised. My father was relentless in trying to make sure that every second of my weekends were filled with labor. Of course, he had free labor in me, so there I was cleaning the pool, mowing the lawn, trimming trees, etc. More than once he also put my friends to work, who'd been invited over to have a good time and were not expecting to be put to work trimming trees or mowing lawns.

So, I learned to resent work unless I am being paid for it. And I am happy when I have nothing to do or am doing something I want to do. Lots of people would consider me a very big time waster, but I don't care. It's my time and if I just want to bang around on the internet or whatever…well, I'm an adult. I can do that and no one (especially my dad now) can tell me I can't.

I have a home, I've been married 25+ years to the same person and I have two kids. I have a job and with my wife's job it pays our bills. I work hard, I'm loyal to my wife, the bills are paid, need are met. So if I want to 'waste time' on my time, I will. Being 'productive', to me, is highly overrated. Being 'productive' is usually pushed by people who can't stand to be idle for even one second and who must, for some reason, make sure no else is idle. My dad was that way.

I don't watch streamers on YT. I watch videos of people who've already played through a game and recorded it, then posted it on YT. I don't want commentary or anything else. I just want to watch a game being played through - especially if I've never seen it before.

As to music, I'm a big fan of Celtic/Gaelic music and it's offshoots, as well as ambient music. I'm a heavy user of the Dronezone channel on SOMA FM.

Nice, this is why I mention. obviously each of us will spend weekend differently.

 

[Certificate of Excellence]

What I did on weekends before kids and what I do now are two completely different animals lol. Before it was what my wife and I wanted to do - go to a new winery, try a new bistro, go see a band or Id go play gigs/rock shows until 2am in the morning with my musician friends. Now it is what they need me to do. If Im up past 10, it's a miracle. Trips to the soccer field for games or to swim lessons or to the grocery to get staples for the week, Mass on Sundays etc. I dont know what I do on my weekends for myself anymore hah.

And this completely ok

 

[avro707]

I ride bicycles and do some rowing. Then whatever else needs doing around the home.

 

[Hamdullah Retarderson]

On Saturdays, I go to work at the store. I leave around noon. I go to see customers. In my free time, I call my friends and we play okey (the local game). In my free time, I take care of the house and its people

 

[Scepticalscribe]

What I did on weekends before kids and what I do now are two completely different animals lol. Before it was what my wife and I wanted to do - go to a new winery, try a new bistro, go see a band or Id go play gigs/rock shows until 2am in the morning with my musician friends. Now it is what they need me to do. If Im up past 10, it's a miracle. Trips to the soccer field for games or to swim lessons or to the grocery to get staples for the week, Mass on Sundays etc. I dont know what I do on my weekends for myself anymore hah.

And this completely ok

That is exactly what a very good friend of mine (once upon a distant time, also a former student of mine, the best student I have ever taught) observed last night, when we were chatting by phone - namely, how her life has changed since she had children - and she, as a tenured academic - she teaches law, and is a barrister - is the main bread-winner, which means that she escapes much of the burden of the domestic - while her husband (also a former student of mine) plays the main home-maker and carer role.

 

[eyoungren]

What I did on weekends before kids and what I do now are two completely different animals lol. Before it was what my wife and I wanted to do - go to a new winery, try a new bistro, go see a band or Id go play gigs/rock shows until 2am in the morning with my musician friends. Now it is what they need me to do. If Im up past 10, it's a miracle. Trips to the soccer field for games or to swim lessons or to the grocery to get staples for the week, Mass on Sundays etc. I dont know what I do on my weekends for myself anymore hah.

And this completely ok

There were some changes I had to make to what I do when I got married. In fact, those started happening when I was dating my wife. But, my wife has never denied me the things I was doing before I met her. And for that I am grateful.

When kids came along, we'd been three years in this state and I still hadn't met anyone or found a group to game with. So, having kids didn't really change much in relation to my free time or weekends. My kids take after us, two parents who were never interested in sports and engaged in solitary activities. So, there was never driving anyone around to football practice or whatnot. I would have done that if they'd been interested - but they weren't.

We did however, drive them around for various other activities that they were involved in at school or other places. So there's that.

But, in a thread I started a long time ago that @Scepticalscribe was a part of, I realized that it comes down to priority. My family is a priority, the things I need to get done are a priority, work, etc. But what I do in my free time and on weekends is also a priority - to me. So, I will get my other priorities done, rearrange priorities, or go without some sleep in order to meet MY priorities. Sometimes this means, I get shorted. And that's fine because my priorities are lower down on the list. But most of the time I manage.

I was waiting in the breakroom once for my wife to finish up whatever she was doing (we both worked at UPS, that's where I met her) and I overheard a conversation between two of the maintenance people. One of them got married, and described to the other person that once that happened he cut off all his friends and abandoned every hobby and personal interest he had to be solely for whatever his wife needed/wanted out of him.

That scared the hell out of me. I am fortunate my wife was never that type of person. Later on, I worked with someone who deliberately took as much overtime at work as he could possibly get. The longer he stayed at work meant less time that he had to spend at home dealing with his wife (and kids) - whom he didn't seem to care for. Again, I am fortunate.

 

[Scepticalscribe]

There were some changes I had to make to what I do when I got married. In fact, those started happening when I was dating my wife. But, my wife has never denied me the things I was doing before I met her. And for that I am grateful.

When kids came along, we'd been three years in this state and I still hadn't met anyone or found a group to game with. So, having didn't didn't really change much in relation to my free time or weekends. My kids take after us, two parents who were never interested in sports and engaged in solitary activities. So, there was never driving anyone around to football practice or whatnot. I would have done that if they'd been interested - but they weren't.

We did however, drive them around for various other activities that they were involved in at school or other places. So there's that.

But, in a thread I started a long time ago that @Scepticalscribe was a part of, I realized that it comes down to priority. My family is a priority, the things I need to get done are a priority, work, etc. But what I do in my free time and on weekends is also a priority - to me. So, I will get my other priorities done, rearrange priorities, or go without some sleep in order to meet MY priorities. Sometimes this means, I get shorted. And that's fine because my priorities are lower down on the list. But most of the time I manage.

I was waiting in the breakroom once for my wife to finish up whatever she was doing (we both worked at UPS, that's where I met her) and I overheard a conversation between two of the maintenance people. One of them got married, and described to the other person that once that happened he cut off all his friends and abandoned every hobby and personal interest he had to be solely for whatever his wife needed/wanted out of him.

That scared the hell out of me. I am fortunate my wife was never that type of person. Later on, I worked with someone who deliberately took as much overtime at work as he could possibly get. The longer he stayed at work meant less time that he had to spend at home dealing with his wife (and kids) - whom he didn't seem to care for. Again, I am fortunate.

The discussion about priorities is interesting.

Priorities matter, but so, too, do other things such as mutual respect for one's partner, or spouse, and also a respect for what interests them and for what they like to do, independently of you, even if you, personally, do not much care for it, or it fails to hold any interest for you.

In earlier generations, - and social attitudes and expectations certainly contributed to this considerably - family formation often meant a total transformation of such priorities in the life of the female partner, especially once children came along, whereas - and here, I am thinking of many men of my father's generation (my father told me how some of his male work colleagues were astounded that he had "let" his wife attend college, work, travel abroad by herself, and how he had responded that he was proud to be married to an intelligent, accomplished, woman, and that she was happy and fulfilled, and so was he) - many men were able to continue with their lives largely undisturbed, blithely indifferent to domestic matters, as long as they ran smoothly.

This has changed, and both partners now tend to be invested more in the lives of their families than used to be the case, which means that such priorities have changed.

 

[eyoungren]

The discussion about priorities is interesting.

Priorities matter, but so, too, do other things such as mutual respect for one's partner, or spouse, and also a respect for what interests them and for what they like to do, independently of you, even if you, personally, do not much care for it, or it fails to hold any interest for you.

In earlier generations, - and social attitudes and expectations certainly contributed to this considerably - family formation often meant a total transformation of such priorities in the life of the female partner, especially once children came along, whereas - and here, I am thinking of many men of my father's generation (my father told me how some of his male work colleagues were astounded that he had "let" his wife attend college, work, travel abroad by herself, and how he had responded that he was proud to be married to an intelligent, accomplished, woman, and that she was happy and fulfilled, and so was he) - many men were able to continue with their lives largely undisturbed, blithely indifferent to domestic matters, as long as they ran smoothly.

This has changed, and both partners now tend to be invested more in the lives of their families than used to be the case, which means that such priorities have changed.

I'll explain what I mean by 'priorities'. Working to pay the bills, ensuring the house is clean (to include dishes), the family is fed, there is food in the pantry/refrigerator, kids needs have been met, and my wife has what she needs/wants on any particular day - then I am free to engage in MY priority.

If none of that, or only some of it has been taken care of and I then engage in what I want to do - my wife will have a problem with me, unless there is agreement ahead of time about whatever I'm deficient in.

To be specific: if I have friends over and I haven't taken care of my responsibilities, the house is a mess and I've ignored my wife's needs before inviting my friends in, then I can expect her to be angry. Gaming, what I do, is the type of thing that involves at least four hours of time. Usually it's six hours.

So, I make sure everything is taken care of, so that I can engage in my priority and everybody/everything else is happy. If it means that doing all of that requires going on 2-4 hours sleep for what I want to do or some other sacrifice, then I will take that hit. Because, with everything else taken care of, I am now free to do what I want in the time I have left.

While there is a modicum of self-interest in this (I don't wish to be interrupted (particularly in front of friends) by an angry wife complaining that I've neglected her or things), largely I do it out of respect for her and my kids. As to the other things you've mentioned, I'm proud of my wife and who she is and what she's accomplished and can do. There have been points where she has been the breadwinner. I have no issue with that, because it's our money. Just the same as when I am the breadwinner. I benefit, she benefits.

I've never understood the whole screwing yourself over thing just because of some antiquated societal/gender norm.

 

[Apple fanboy]

So like most of us I work on a computer all day.
So in my evenings and weekends I try and do activities that don’t involve a screen.
Spending time with Mrs AFB is always a priority for me. She only works a couple of hours a week.
I work from home mostly so obviously she sees more of me than she used to.
We don’t eat out or go to bars. Mostly just going for walks together.

As for hobbies I like to take photos. I like to travel but Mrs AFB doesn’t so outside of work trips I tend to just get away for a few days a year with friends.

We both spend a fair amount of time working in the garden together.

Up until a couple of years ago I’d just work most evenings. But I decided my boss was getting a week and a half’s work for a weeks pay.

 

[Letlie]

I used to spend every bit of my weekend grinding League of Legends — like, any free time I had went straight into it. But as more and more of my friends stopped playing, it just became less fun.


Then I got into short videos. Up until earlier this year, I actually thought they were great — full of new ideas and interesting stuff. But at some point, I realized they were just eating up my time. Looking back, they didn’t really add anything to my life besides a few moments of quick entertainment. I’d always feel exhausted on Monday mornings after a weekend like that.


So lately, I’ve started using my weekends to focus on my health — getting enough sleep, exercising, and eating better. And honestly, that’s been one of the best decisions I’ve made in a while. I feel so much better physically now, especially on Monday mornings. I don’t wake up groggy or want to crawl back into bed anymore — it’s such a good feeling.

 

[Apple fanboy]

I forgot to mention exercise. At least 2 hours a day.

 

[maflynn]

As a father of two, and husband of one, (wife as yet to allow me to have a girlfriend ) My weekends tend to be busy doing family stuff,including and not limited to errands, chores, and activities.

During the fall, I try to spend some time watching college football, but overall I try not to sit in front of the tv for 12 hours. I'll watch one game maybe during the day - generally unlikely given my honey-do list but its possible and one game at night.

I also make time to run on both days, and lately I've been going back to the gym.

Finally, the wife and I try to have a date night, either saturday or sunday evening.

 

[Gregg2]

… exercise. At least 2 hours a day.

Same here. Most of the remaining time I'm sitting down. I watch a lot of sports on TV, use the internet on iPad or Mac, and do some reading.

 

[lpolarityl]

I work in front of a computer all day so I tend to not want to be in front of a screen at a desk when I get home. I do admit that I will play a rogue-like game for a bit (30 mins or so) if I'm up for it. Most of the time when I have some free time, I will run, cycle or clean something up/organize. There's always something to be done around the house so that tends to take up a lot of the free time I have. Once priorities are in line, thats when I'll veg out and play some games. By then I'm exhausted, so I get about 30-45 min in at most before I call it a night. My wife and I have a routine where we watch a show together in bed using an iPad. We usually do 30-45 min and we both end up dozing off. Sometimes we'll read or do a rosary. This is life after 40+, its riveting. :]