I Think My Brother Has Anger Issues.

[Frozone]

My brothers throws these crazy fits throughout the day. He cusses at his computer and beats on it. I recorded a minute or two of it today and I seriously think he's got anger issues.

http://www.rapidsharing.com/5b2df39e6905a885b5c98a646178c908

Warning: Recording has lots of curse words.

 

[realityisterror]

Eek, that can be frustrating.
Is he talking to his computer in that recording? For some reason I wasn't seeing any video.

Depending on your relationship with your brother or your parents, you could probably seek to get him some sort of help with therapy or medicine.

(It's quite evident that you're from GA. I live outside of Atlanta myself.)

reality

 

[mcarnes]

I wasn't seeing any video either.

 

[WildCowboy]

Sounds a lot like the guy who used to work across a divider from me...except this guy was about 45 and a lot more vocal.

 

[mcarnes]

If he's using windows I wouldn't worry. I usually sound like that when I'm using windows.

 

[Frozone]

Yeah, that was him talking to his computer. He does this MANY times throughout the entire day. He's already broken a mouse and a keyboard if I remember correctly from beating them on his desk.

There isn't supposed to be any video. It was a .m4a file, but for some reason that wasn't uploading and working right so I converted it in iMovie. It seemed like the simpliest thing to do.

 

[7254278]

Yeah, that was him talking to his computer. He does this MANY times throughout the entire day. He's already broken a mouse and a keyboard if I remember correctly from beating them on his desk.

There isn't supposed to be any video. It was a .m4a file, but for some reason that wasn't uploading and working right so I converted it in iMovie. It seemed like the simpliest thing to do.

How old is he? If he is in puberty it might be a major case of hormone inbalance.

 

[scem0]

eek - it sure does sound like he has anger problems.

All I can offer is my ears if you need someone to rant to, because I have no idea what to do about an angry person .

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[Frozone]

He's 16 years old.

 

[Boggle]

I can hear him quite clearly. It doesn't sound like it's a good idea to be around him in those situations. Given that he is 16 and this an everday, multiple times per day occurance; I'd say it is serious.

Medically, this is about the Prefrontal Cortex. It's the part of the brain that controls impulsive behavior, and good decision / bad decision judgements etc. Unfortunately, it basically doesn't function from the beginning to the end of puberty. So many, many teens actually experience feelings totally disproportionate to the actual events. Some cry, others get overly angry.

I don't know how old you are, or what the living situation is, and I'm certainly not qualified to advise you, but I'd say if it is me... I would very actively NOT be around it. And I certainly wouldn't confront him about it alone. I hope it works out for both of you. Good luck.

 

[Frozone]

I can hear him quite clearly. It doesn't sound like it's a good idea to be around him in those situations. Given that he is 16 and this an everday, multiple times per day occurance; I'd say it is serious.

Medically, this is about the Prefrontal Cortex. It's the part of the brain that controls impulsive behavior, and good decision / bad decision judgements etc. Unfortunately, it basically doesn't function from the beginning to the end of puberty. So many, many teens actually experience feelings totally disproportionate to the actual events. Some cry, others get overly angry.

I don't know how old you are, or what the living situation is, and I'm certainly not qualified to advise you, but I'd say if it is me... I would very actively NOT be around it. And I certainly wouldn't confront him about it alone. I hope it works out for both of you. Good luck.

I'm 18 years old. Whenever he has these fits I just generally ignore him. If I say anything we end up phsyically fighting. Last time that hapepned, I had rings around my neck from him trying to choke me and he had black eye's.

I talked to my parents about it and they are supposedly going to see about getting him some sort of help.

Oh, my biological dad had some anger issues as well. He was also strung out on drugs and alcohol. Is there any chance this could be genetic?

 

[quigleybc]

I hope no one ever records me when I'm having a bad day, or bad moment, and then uploads it to the internet....

 

[iGary]

I'd deck him.

And go off to college.

 

[CompUser]

Wow..... you would think he is using windows.


In the beginning it is not so bad. Obviously he frustrated. But then when he starts talking to the computer a lot, thats odd. When he goes crazy and really yells, that leads me to believe he does have anger problems.


What does he says/yells before "one more chance"

This actually made me laugh. His anger, his talking to the computer, and he sounds like he has a southern accent- no offense to anyone that has one.

 

[Frozone]

Wow..... you would think he is using windows.


In the beginning it is not so bad. Obviously he frustrated. But then when he starts talking to the computer a lot, thats odd. When he goes crazy and really yells, that leads me to believe he does have anger problems.


What does he says/yells before "one more chance"

This actually made me laugh. His anger, his talking to the computer, and he sounds like he has a southern accent- no offense to anyone that has one.

At that part he said..

"Shut the f*** up. You just ruined my god d***** chance."

And yes, he has a southern accent. You get those living in south Georgia.

 

[Peyton]

Oh my gosh, that was intense for a 16 year old.

OK, I went through puberty too, I never got that angry at anything, I don't think that's it. Seriously all the cussing is almost unintelligable, its like he just wants to hear himself say those words.

I don't know, if that's happening all day, I would get something done about it. I don't think confronting him would help one bit though. Or you'll just get a lot more of what you recorded.

16, seems like a good age to get into an anger habit, or get out of one. I think you can help.

 

[Leraste]

WOW. His accent made me think of Blanche Devereaux from the Golden Girls. Which caused me to laugh.

 

[Frozone]

I really do not see how ya'll can pick up a southern accent from that. I guess that's because I was raised down here and am used to it.

 

[amateurmacfreak]

Yeah, all I can say is I'm sorry you have to live with that.

I mean, just try to avoid him when he's like that and all and if your parents try to seek help it could be good.
But it might just be teenagerdom.

 

[rockthecasbah]

I'd deck him.

And go off to college.

That's the spirit iGary, hit 'n run .

Given his age (i'm 16 too) i would say it's a little abnormal. I didn't think it was that bad until the end when his screams got very loud and raw. That seemed a bit disturbing. He should have more control than that, or i at least think so. Hormonal imbalances only go so far, help is needed no matter what age. The biggest issue seems to me is the potential backlash that can occur from confronting his anger. Does your brother acknowledge that he has anger-control issues? If he does, talking to him might be a LITTLE easier. It could get ugly if he denies having a problem. So be cautious

 

[Frozone]

That's the spirit iGary, hit 'n run .

Given his age (i'm 16 too) i would say it's a little abnormal. I didn't think it was that bad until the end when his screams got very loud and raw. That seemed a bit disturbing. He should have more control than that, or i at least think so. Hormonal imbalances only go so far, help is needed no matter what age. The biggest issue seems to me is the potential backlash that can occur from confronting his anger. Does your brother acknowledge that he has anger-control issues? If he does, talking to him might be a LITTLE easier. It could get ugly if he denies having a problem. So be cautious

My parents talked to him and told him that people expressed concern about his anger issues and asked if he would do some sort of councelling or thearpy. He agreed, but didn't understand why and doesn't think he has any anger managment issues.

 

[Boggle]

I'm 18 years old. Whenever he has these fits I just generally ignore him. If I say anything we end up phsyically fighting. Last time that hapepned, I had rings around my neck from him trying to choke me and he had black eye's.

I talked to my parents about it and they are supposedly going to see about getting him some sort of help.

Oh, my biological dad had some anger issues as well. He was also strung out on drugs and alcohol. Is there any chance this could be genetic?

That doesn't sound like the normal type of sibling rivalry type of fight to me.

As for your parents, it's really a difficult situation and anything like this probably can't be easy for them to address. There must be a bunch of different conflicting feelings involved.

I really can't say if there's a genetic component to anger issues, there certainly seems to be to chemical dependancy though.

The upshot is this. You should talk to SOMEBODY. If you don't think you can get somewhere with your parents, call a hospital they have (at the very least) names of places you can contact about this kind of issue. And that can ensure a degree of anonymity, if that matters to you.

Heck, @ the very least you'd be better off taking the advice of any kind of actual counselor over the opinions of a bunch people on MR. We prove our ignorance in writing everytime we post here.

 

[rockthecasbah]

My parents talked to him and told him that people expressed concern about his anger issues and asked if he would do some sort of councelling or thearpy. He agreed, but didn't understand why and doesn't think he has any anger managment issues.

well it is at least good that he agreed to see someone about it, even if he doesn't quite believe he has a problem. Just be patient, sometimes these things take time to accept and deal with, his denial may pass with this help.

 

[Frozone]

That doesn't sound like the normal type of sibling rivalry type of fight to me.

As for your parents, it's really a difficult situation and anything like this probably can't be easy for them to address. There must be a bunch of different conflicting feelings involved.

I really can't say if there's a genetic component to anger issues, there certainly seems to be to chemical dependancy though.

The upshot is this. You should talk to SOMEBODY. If you don't think you can get somewhere with your parents, call a hospital they have (at the very least) names of places you can contact about this kind of issue. And that can ensure a degree of anonymity, if that matters to you.

Heck, @ the very least you'd be better off taking the advice of any kind of actual counselor over the opinions of a bunch people on MR. We prove our ignorance in writing everytime we post here.

We're not normal siblings. When we fight we go for blood. Most siblings actually love each other deep down. I can honestly say that we're not like this. If I had to name one person in this world that I truly down right hate, it's him. Once I leave for college, I HIGHLY doubt I will talk to him at all, if ever.

And I taked to my parents. They're gonna do something.

 

[Peyton]

Dude, thats crazy. If I were to bet, I would think its over you being gay, no? He seems like the quite ununderstanding type. I would also say, these are the formative years, you have few left before he will subconsciously cut you out of his life. If you can find some sort of even ground, something you both like doing and find a way to be closer I say DO IT. That's really sad, I'm sorry about this.

I hope he gets better