Naimfan-
I don't think you have anything to worry about based on the symptoms you've given. The Word work files you've discovered are a common occurence if you use Word regularly; it tends to sock settings and backup copies of your work in those files, then throw them away when you quit. As for the wheel group, this is the group on your computer that contains all administrators, and is created by default when the operating system is installed. You are most likely running as an administrator and are thus a member of this group.
As for smbclient, I'm not absolutely sure when this program is used, but it's entirely possible that it's being called by some other, more innocent program. In any case, a whois lookup on the address it's talking to gives the following:
OrgName: Fujitsu Network Transmission Systems, Inc.
OrgID: FNTS-1
Address: 2801 Telecom Parkway
City: Richardson
StateProv: TX
PostalCode: 75082
Country: US
If that looks familiar, then you may have a problem. If not, or if neither you nor your ex-fiance's ex-husband live in texas, then that is almost certainly unrelated to any problems you've been having.
Further, breaking into a mac is very difficult if filesharing is off and the firewall is up. So don't fret too much about the weirdness of your mac's internal workings, most of the time you'll be safe.
Good luck.