So I've done everything that the above poster has mentioned. But what seems to have happened is that iCal and Address book have overridden my Palm calendar and address entries. I was expecting to see the address entries from both merge together and show up in both programs. And I was expecting the Palm calendar entries to showup in iCal.
Because iCal was empty in the first place, no both iCal and Palm calendar have no entries.
Any advice as to what I may have done wrong? The thought of fixing this manually makes me ill.