iTunes remote won't connect to iTunes (on iPad)

[BJB Productions]

Hi all,
I'm really getting tired of this: No matter what I do, DNS change, etc, my iPad or my iPhone will not connect to iTunes using the iTunes remote app.

I've checked to make sure iTunes looks for remotes, I've reset remotes, checked all incoming connections, and nothing seems to have worked. I'm on an N/G network, and my iPad has no problems connecting to my Wifi ever. (Although, my iPhone doesn't connect, so still trying to figure that out.)

Any ideas how to fix this?

Thanks