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Resolved No iMessage with boyfriend?

KUguardgrl13

KUguardgrl13

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May 16, 2013
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Hey all! Basically my boyfriend and I both have iPhone 5's running the latest iOS 8, but we seem to be having problems with iMessage lately. All of our messages on both sides have been going through as SMS for a few days now. I turned iMessage off and on on my phone, and that doesn't seem to have fixed it. I also tried to send an iMessage from my iPad Mini, but it failed and wants to try the SMS relay that I have enabled. It doesn't seem to make a difference whether I'm on wifi or LTE. My carrier is Verizon, and his is T-Mobile. iMessage seems to be working for my other contacts. I'm not sure about his, but it seems to be isolated to our Message thread. I'd rather not delete the message thread and start over if it can be helped. Any ideas?
 
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If you don't have issues with other contacts, it could be something with your boyfriends iMessage. He should log out and log back in to iMessage.
 
KUguardgrl13 said:
Hey all! Basically my boyfriend and I both have iPhone 5's running the latest iOS 8, but we seem to be having problems with iMessage lately. All of our messages on both sides have been going through as SMS for a few days now. I turned iMessage off and on on my phone, and that doesn't seem to have fixed it. I also tried to send an iMessage from my iPad Mini, but it failed and wants to try the SMS relay that I have enabled. It doesn't seem to make a difference whether I'm on wifi or LTE. My carrier is Verizon, and his is T-Mobile. iMessage seems to be working for my other contacts. I'm not sure about his, but it seems to be isolated to our Message thread. I'd rather not delete the message thread and start over if it can be helped. Any ideas?
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There are iMessage settings that force all messages as SMS. He could have that set. Also, I would delete the text thread on his and yours and try again. My guess is his settings for iMessage has been altered. Have him check and see what phone numbers and email addresses he has registered for iMessage as well.
 
Coupz said:
If you don't have issues with other contacts, it could be something with your boyfriends iMessage. He should log out and log back in to iMessage.
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Okay I'll try that. Unfortunately last time I messed with settings on his phone I accidentally deleted our iMessage history. He was pretty mad and with it being almost Valentine's Day...

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theSeb said:
Get a new boyfriend with a working phone.
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Um rude. We've been together almost five years. A weird phone thing is not going to change that, especially when these are otherwise functioning iPhone 5's.

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Black Magic said:
There are iMessage settings that force all messages as SMS. He could have that set. Also, I would delete the text thread on his and yours and try again. My guess is his settings for iMessage has been altered. Have him check and see what phone numbers and email addresses he has registered for iMessage as well.
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That would be strange. He doesn't tend to mess with his settings, especially the ones for Messages. Last time I messed with them I accidentally deleted our message thread. I'm not about to do that right before Valentine's Day...

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Also, how do you know it's his iPhone that's the problem? I can't send him iMessages from my iPad Mini that's tied to my iCloud account with my phone number and email. I haven't changed any settings. Text Message forwarding is turned off on my iPhone.
 
It's not just you. Anytime I have an issue with one of my cloud services I've learned to check the downdetector.com website - they tap into Twitter and have an "I have a problem" button. I checked earlier today, and Messages (iMessage) has some minor outages worldwide today, and a few of my employees have actually had to call someone today (they're engineers, born introverts...).
 
You do not need to delete the message thread. It will let you flip back and forth from sms to iMessage throughout the message.

If you can send to others with iMessage (the messages are blue) the issue is not with your devices but his. Can he send to anyone with iMessage? If not, make sure he is logged in. Settings, messages, iMessage at the top. It might ask for the iCloud password.
 
KUguardgrl13 said:
Hey all! Basically my boyfriend and I both have iPhone 5's running the latest iOS 8, but we seem to be having problems with iMessage lately. All of our messages on both sides have been going through as SMS for a few days now. I turned iMessage off and on on my phone, and that doesn't seem to have fixed it. I also tried to send an iMessage from my iPad Mini, but it failed and wants to try the SMS relay that I have enabled. It doesn't seem to make a difference whether I'm on wifi or LTE. My carrier is Verizon, and his is T-Mobile. iMessage seems to be working for my other contacts. I'm not sure about his, but it seems to be isolated to our Message thread. I'd rather not delete the message thread and start over if it can be helped. Any ideas?
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I had the exact same problem with my girlfriend a year ago. These are the things that we did to fix it:

1) We both turned off iMessage and turned it back on (as suggested by earlier poster)
2) Sign out of Apple ID and then sign back in
3) Send an iMessage to his email and because he has it associated with his number it may start working and merge with existing thread

Good luck
 
ensure that both of you are logged into icloud account.

Also ensure that both of you have each others icloud email address saved in the contact card (this is odd but it fixed a similar imessage issue i had)
 
Black Magic said:
I told you. And you doubted me... :p:apple:
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Yeah well he doesn't know how it happened :rolleyes: He's under the impression that his iPhones break just to spite him. Yet he's aware that switching to android would bring a different set of problems, especially since he's now "trapped" in the Apple ecosystem at my encouragement :D He just wants to go back to his BlackBerry where if something goes wrong you just pull the battery.
 
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