I didn't read the whole thread so this is probably mention but here goes:
Books:
1. Understanding Exposure
2. Light, Science, and Magic (this is more when you get into lighting)
I also heard the Scott Kelby books are great for beginners. I have beginner friends who love them.
Actual shooting:
1. Get a 50mm 1.4 lens. Every manufacturer has one and they are always between $60 - $120 (usually around $75 though). This lens is the perfect beginner lens. It allows for very shallow depth of field as well as low light shooting. Definitely make this one of your first purchases.
2. No automatic mode. None. No matter how tempting. You will get stuck there and never leave.
You can start in aperture or shutter priority, but I still recommend starting in full manual mode and learning that way. Learn to read the light meter. Start by experimenting with shutter speed, then aperture, then iso. Thats usually what works the best for most people. Once it clicks, you will wonder how you ever got confused on it
3. Take LOTS of pictures, set up a still life and experiment with different settings, see what settings give you what results, and dont forget to read the light meter!
4. Be careful buying equipment. There are a TON of scams out there for photography equipment. The general rule of thumb is, if its cheaper then BHPhoto, Pictureline, Adorama, or Amazon its a scam. If you are unsure, ALWAYS either check reseller rattings, or ask on a forum. If the price is too good to be true, its a scam.