1) Your reply totally misses the point of what I was replying to, which was, and I quote "You don't worry about RAM on iPhone typically". I was replying that I do, in fact, sometimes worry about RAM on my phone.
2) Since we're now talking about this, I'm well aware of how virtual memory works; paging to disk, even on a very very fast SSD, can still be pretty damn painful. Until we have stateful memory with the same latencies and random access speeds as our volatile memory at reasonable prices and sizes paging is always going to be a problem (I could also dig into swap files and issues with current SSDs including wear and tear, and FDE speed issues, but that's a whole separate discussion)
3) When I was referring to my previous comments on expectations I was referring to elsewhere in this thread where it's been suggested that a reasonable solution for low RAM on a mac would be to simply pause apps tabbed away from a la iOS.