whenever i add the birthday field under templates, then go to edit a contact it only lets me enter the month and year, so their birthday is always the 1st of the month because the field is not there.....
No, I don't have that problem here. 10.6.1 on a MacBook Unibody. Just created a new card and tried editing an old one, in both cases showed me the mm/dd/yyyy format. Are you using that format or a different date format? Might be significant here.