Alright... I need help. Dating issues, meeting people, etc.

[NeoMac]

Someone once told me a poem and I forgot most of it but the part I do remember always made sense to me it goes like this.

If you follow love it will flee
If you flee from love, it will follow thee.

So the way I took that is it's better to just be open to the idea than trying to seek it out. That's my 2 cents for what it's worth. Good luck.

 

[stonyc]

I actually like taking tons of photos with my film SLR camera... perhaps that could somehow trickle down into meeting more people?

Sure, just avoid drooling whilst taking the picture.. that would be one big step towards making it look like you're not a voyeur or stalker.

And though tempting as it may sound... erotic photographer does not qualify as a hobby that helps you meet nice people. Well, maybe it does... but still.

 

[2nyRiggz]

Make friends a worry about the love life later....it will come when you are not looking...sure she might be a dork but thats better than being lonely



Bless

 

[mouchoir]

You've got to develope a style that's all your own; something to separate yourself from all the average blokes. Don't waste your time with the homely girls, they have to many insecurity issures. Go for the major babes; most of the guys assume that they're already taken and they will be impressed by your audacity.

PS. Did I use the semicolon correctly?

Yes, but you spelt 'develop' incorrectly

 

[w_parietti22]

I find that a lot of people in my school are rich and pampered for the most part; I talk to a lot of people, yet I get turned off once they start talking about their parents income, their new car, etc. The few people that I've met that are down to earth have rejected me fairly hard (either that or they're already taken.) Perhaps I'm somewhat closed minded about this whole thing, but eh, I don't know.

really? At SU? That surprises me.

 

[MacFan782040]

The thing I learned is that college isn't high school. People, girls in general, don't give a crap whether the guy is attractive or "cool" or whatever. I've gotten more girls than most sports players I know.

At this age, girls start looking for guys who they would like to marry. Look at you-- you're majoring in something that will make you rich some day. That's a turn on... girls like guys who are smart and just plain fun to be with.

Don't try to impress her, or think a girl is too "hot" or "good" for you. The girl I'm seeing now is freaking gorgious, she's on the dance team with a perfect body. And I'm hardly the best looking guy at school... It's all about personality man!

 

[true777]

As a woman, I can say a lot of it is about whether the guy looks good.
We're basically just as shallow as you guys are!

So... make sure to have a good haircut, be clean shaven or have a cool goatee or the like, make sure your clothes look good and you look clean, together, groomed, and interesting. Get some cool glasses or the like.
If unsure about personal style, ask a woman friend.

Get involved in sports or do any kind of exercise -- girls like athletic guys, plus you'll meet people.

Personality-wise, like others have said, just be yourself, and have fun with it!

 

[mpw]

1) Be yourself.
2) If you're LOOKING for it, you won't find it. Stop LOOKING for it.
3) Be yourself.
4) Don't be in a rush to have a love life....

(1) Most important. It doesn't matter what your flaws are, and everyone has flaws, just be yourself. Leave the flaws on show so they don't become an issue later.
(2) Looking is OK, but don't look desperate. If you're talking about love however; If you find it you'll know, looking or not.
(3) Be yourself. For yourself, make sure you're doing stuff that makes you happy and doing it with people who make you happy. It's OK to strive to make someone you love happy if that makes you happy doing it, but don't just live to make others happy. You can do it, but not for ever.
(4) You can't hurry love. If you decide you'll not look for love until you're 25years old or if you're looking for love today it makes no difference. If your path crosses someone you love you'll be able to do nothing about it.

 

[dalvin200]

(1) Most important. It doesn't matter what your flaws are, and everyone has flaws, just be yourself. Leave the flaws on show so they don't become an issue later.
(2) Looking is OK, but don't look desperate. If you're talking about love however; If you find it you'll know, looking or not.
(3) Be yourself. For yourself, make sure you're doing stuff that makes you happy and doing it with people who make you happy. It's OK to strive to make someone you love happy if that makes you happy doing it, but don't just live to make others happy. You can do it, but not for ever.
(4) You can't hurry love. If you decide you'll not look for love until you're 25years old or if you're looking for love today it makes no difference. If your path crosses someone you love you'll be able to do nothing about it.

that's deep!!

 

[mpw]

that's deep!!

Crap!

Err... Look for a bird with great boobies and a dirrty laugh!

 

[dalvin200]

Crap!

Err... Look for a bird with great boobies and a dirrty laugh!

 

[Merc248]

really? At SU? That surprises me.

Why's that? You go to SU I'm guessing? :x

I don't know, maybe I'm just exaggerating a bit, but quite a few people I know from there are, for the most part, "well off."

 

[Merc248]

(1) Most important. It doesn't matter what your flaws are, and everyone has flaws, just be yourself. Leave the flaws on show so they don't become an issue later.
(2) Looking is OK, but don't look desperate. If you're talking about love however; If you find it you'll know, looking or not.
(3) Be yourself. For yourself, make sure you're doing stuff that makes you happy and doing it with people who make you happy. It's OK to strive to make someone you love happy if that makes you happy doing it, but don't just live to make others happy. You can do it, but not for ever.
(4) You can't hurry love. If you decide you'll not look for love until you're 25years old or if you're looking for love today it makes no difference. If your path crosses someone you love you'll be able to do nothing about it.

Nice pointers. Thanks.

I suppose I'll try asking one or two of my female friends to give an honest opinion on how I look or whatever.

 

[Stridder44]

You don't flirt with women, you be kind, nice, happy and helpful and let them make their own minds up. Flirting is massively over-rated. Just be generous and open with yourself - flirting turns you into something you're not and women can see through a guy who's being fake as easily as we can see through whatever Jen Lopez is wearing to the latest awards show.

You think flirting is overrated? I would like to hear why. No, I would LOVE to hear why. So you're saying it's better to be a needy, wussy guy who buys his way to a girls heart?

Flirting is not being fake. No offense but you obviously don't understand what's going on. Flirting is being playful. It builds sexual tension and it's fun for everyone. However you got that right on women being able to see right through a guy if he's trying too hard. Then again, most guys just give it away by fidgeting, talking with a puny weak voice, slouching, telling them how pretty they are ALL THE TIME, etc.

 

[Stridder44]

The thing I learned is that college isn't high school. People, girls in general, don't give a crap whether the guy is attractive or "cool" or whatever. I've gotten more girls than most sports players I know.

At this age, girls start looking for guys who they would like to marry. Look at you-- you're majoring in something that will make you rich some day. That's a turn on... girls like guys who are smart and just plain fun to be with.

Don't try to impress her, or think a girl is too "hot" or "good" for you. The girl I'm seeing now is freaking gorgious, she's on the dance team with a perfect body. And I'm hardly the best looking guy at school... It's all about personality man!

Preach it!

 

[mpw]

Nice pointers. Thanks. ...

Yeah those too, as mentioned in my later post