I am writing this while I wait for my "Guaranteed Ride Home." My grandmother passed away this morning after battling jaw cancer for almost a year. Like my mother, I wonder sometimes why this happened to her. She never smoked, chewed, ate meat or really did anything unhealthy (she liked sweets, but only in moderation). She lives in India, and my mom won't be able to get there before she is cremated. But, what hurts more than anything is my grandfather. He has alzheimers and the only person he can recognize on a regular basis is my grandmother. When not with her, he is lost and confused. As an act of charity for both, I always hoped that he would pass on before she did. Now, I am afraid for him - his physical health is almost perfect. I don't even know what the point of this thread is. I try not to create threads unless I can think of something that people can respond to. But, right now, I don't know what I want to say or ask. I guess how have those of you who lost loved ones physically to cancer and mentally to alzheimers been able to respond and rebound yourselves?