Another girl advice thread... this is a fun one though.

StephenCampbell said:
Thanks for your input. I guess I should clarify more, I Am interested in her romantically. That would be the main drive behind working up the courage to walk over there.
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Oh sorry, I must have totally misinterpreted your posts like the one above. It seems they all pointed to you wanting a summer fling/romance. The working up courage didn't seem like your main goal. Whatever, I'm just going by what I have seen you type over and over.
 
I lack time to go through the whole thread, but under the assumption you're still wondering what to do to start:

You will be wondering "What if..." for the rest of your life if you don't do something.

Look, she's a foreign exchange student a long way from home. Put yourself in her position, and consider, wouldn't it be awesome if the nice young man whose aunt drove her to her destination stopped by with a little gift of local pertinence... a set of maps, perhaps, or some gift passes to the local movie theater or a certificate to the coffee bar?

If she's not interested, she'll at least be appreciative, and you'll have won a friend.

If she's interested, you'll have started the relationship off on the right foot.

I've found few situations in life where the correct path isn't illuminated by considering the other person's perspective. This is one of them.

But do take it slowly. Don't launch into it thinking "summer fling"-- do it because it's the right and neighborly thing to do, and see where things go. She's feeling awkward and far from all she knows. Be a friend.
 
482214 said:
You really have to move on now.

I think the message she's sending is quite clear.

If she was in the least bit interested she would have made an effort to contact you after all this.

Move on bro
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She has no way of contacting me. No last name, no email, no phone number, no address, nothing. There's nothing she could do if she wanted to contact me at this point.

MotleyGrrl said:
Oh sorry, I must have totally misinterpreted your posts like the one above. It seems they all pointed to you wanting a summer fling/romance. The working up courage didn't seem like your main goal. Whatever, I'm just going by what I have seen you type over and over.
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Yes, the main Drive behind working up the courage, with the main goal and desired outcome being bringing myself to knock on her door and talk to her. The fling was a goal too, but the goal I was most concerned with accomplishing was getting over my fears. That was what was most important to me. There are other girls, there will be other opportunities. But getting over my fears was something I had to do, and something that was in my hands.
 
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StephenCampbell said:
She has no way of contacting me. No last name, no email, no phone number, no address, nothing. There's nothing she could do if she wanted to contact me at this point.
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She would have asked, trust us, she wants you to leave her alone. Does she need a restraining order?
 
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Without shedding a tear
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Well I guess it's time to move on. Congrats for having built up the courage to ask her. No means no, guess she isn't interested in flings, sounds like she has a loving boyfriend who isn't looking for a quick fling. Better luck next time with someone else.
 
eljanitor said:
Well I guess it's time to move on. Congrats for having built up the courage to ask her. No means no, guess she isn't interested in flings, sounds like she has a loving boyfriend who isn't looking for a quick fling. Better luck next time with someone else.
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Thank you!
 
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awer25 said:
"Oh she's so awesome that even if nothing happened I'd be so happy just having a summer buddy, and I can help her with her English"

She has a b/f.

"F that sh** I'm out. And her English sucks anyway"

Sorry OP that your easy summer lay didn't work out as planned. Better luck next time :D
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LOL, that about summed it up for me... I stopped reading there.

FYI OP, your German sucks as well but now that you have some free time this summer maybe you can learn more. :rolleyes:
 
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wpotere said:
LOL, that about summed it up for me... I stopped reading there.

FYI OP, your German sucks as well but now that you have some free time this summer maybe you can learn more. :rolleyes:
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I have explained twice in this thread now why this is a misinterpretation of the situation.

And about the German, believe me, I know. First of all, I've only taken German 101 and 102, and the teaching style was absolutely atrocious. I first entered German 101 really wanting to learn the language, but by the second or third week I just stopped hoping to learn anything, and just went through the motions to not get a bad grade. It was extremely frustrating and annoying. And I know how much my German sucks because of it.

I had a great French teacher for French 101 and 102, so I know the difference.
 
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Deutsche Sprache, schwere Sprache.
Russian is an easier language.

I'd suggest putting the funds toward therapy instead though.
 
StephenCampbell said:
I have explained twice in this thread now why this is a misinterpretation of the situation.
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Yeah, I read them and they made little sense. You openly posted that it she would be a cool summer buddy but just because her English is bad you decided that she isn't worth the effort. I really don't believe that and even if it is true, what does it say about you? If you really meant what you said, you would buy a Russian/English dictionary and spend time with her showing her that we Americans are about more than just getting laid. :rolleyes:

StephenCampbell said:
And about the German, believe me, I know. First of all, I've only taken German 101 and 102, and the teaching style was absolutely atrocious. I first entered German 101 really wanting to learn the language, but by the second or third week I just stopped hoping to learn anything, and just went through the motions to not get a bad grade. It was extremely frustrating and annoying. And I know how much my German sucks because of it.

I had a great French teacher for French 101 and 102, so I know the difference.
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Well then... If you can speak three languages (even a little), then it shouldn't have been to difficult to pick up some Russian and make an effort to be a friend eh?

Makes me wonder if you weren't coming on so strongly that she simply said she had a boyfriend to make you go away.

codymac said:
Deutsche Sprache, schwere Sprache.
Russian is an easier language.

I'd suggest putting the funds toward therapy instead though.
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I always thought German was easier as we also speak a Germanic language. I dated a Russian linguist once and tried to learn some and found it a lot harder.

+1 on therapy!
 
This is gonna sound weird to those who do not know what it means but, it sounds to me like you have been reading and following some "PUA advice"... trust me, it won't make you happier. Just be your good ol' self, man.
 
You're asking the wrong people.

For girl advice, don't go to tech sites.

Cheers and good luck.
 
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