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Any bisexuals here?
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ooo these are cool.
I didn't say that was my belief. it seems to be said a lot about homosexuals and transexuals that they were born with the right brain in the wrong body. or so thats what Nadia and that famous transexual Bond girl said.
so its against my personal belief about sleeping around im not religious but sleeping around is a huge no no in my books. waiting for marriage i be.
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I didn't say that was my belief. it seems to be said a lot about homosexuals and transexuals that they were born with the right brain in the wrong body. or so thats what Nadia and that famous transexual Bond girl said.
so its against my personal belief about sleeping around
im not religious but sleeping around is a huge no no in my books. waiting for marriage i be.hmm indeed! its a few hours later and my head is still shattered!
i have more girl friends than guys. guys tend to be too "guyish"... obviously. drink too much. put on a transparent front to impress the girls. always gunning to be number 1... nah. my guy mates are nothing like that. we dont drink, we go on mad adventures in the countryside (think Last of the Summer Wine but 60 years prior ).
um. yea. girls are more gentle and funny. im closer to my mum than my dad if that means anything! whereas my girlfriend is closer to her dad... i think.
oh the worlds gone mental. thats my excuse.
).um. yea. girls are more gentle and funny. im closer to my mum than my dad if that means anything! whereas my girlfriend is closer to her dad... i think.
oh the worlds gone mental. thats my excuse.
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raggedjimmi said:
I dunno - I figure that if you're bisexual you are open to anyone in the world being the 'right' one, which in my book is about the best you can be. Doesn't mean sleeping with anyone. Although you can if you want to.
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I dunno. I guess I'm officially bisexual. And I'm officially not confused. At all. I wouldn't usually post such a thing, but I know it screwed me up for a while, and if someone felt a bit more sorted from reading it that would be cool.
In the past, I was really picky about who I went for, but I did like boys and girls. In that spirit, I went out with boys and girls. As you do.
Now, I'm with my fiance. He happens to be a man. He is also my best friend and I fancy the pants off him. I don't fancy anyone else, male or female, partly because I'm with him and I don't think it's a good thing to go round lusting after other people when you're in love with someone, and partly because I just don't fancy anyone else when I'm with him, because he is awesome. So I guess being bisexual is irrelevant when you've met the right person, because you're with them and that's it.
I feel it's become less relevant over the years, mainly because I've had more of a f*ck it attitude as time went on, and I've figured that any headf*cking (and yes, there was a lot of headf*cking) that went on was due to me having to say "I am this, I am that" and I just can't be arsed anymore. Since I decided not to worry about it, and just go for who I really liked, I have been far happier, and as a bonus have met my soul mate. I'm not fond of the term "soul mate", but he kinda is.
And I feel really comfortable, knowing that I haven't missed out, and that I know what's going on, and I'm not going to be suddenly thrown by someone of, say, the same sex, because I know that he's the one, because I've been there. I know you can't predict who you'll meet in the future, but I feel happy that he's it. Although it's been a hell of a journey, I've ended up happier and more grounded than so many more people I know.
I wouldn't usually post such a thing, but I know it screwed me up for a while, and if someone felt a bit more sorted from reading it that would be cool. In the past, I was really picky about who I went for, but I did like boys and girls. In that spirit, I went out with boys and girls. As you do.
Now, I'm with my fiance. He happens to be a man. He is also my best friend and I fancy the pants off him. I don't fancy anyone else, male or female, partly because I'm with him and I don't think it's a good thing to go round lusting after other people when you're in love with someone, and partly because I just don't fancy anyone else when I'm with him, because he is awesome. So I guess being bisexual is irrelevant when you've met the right person, because you're with them and that's it.
I feel it's become less relevant over the years, mainly because I've had more of a f*ck it attitude as time went on, and I've figured that any headf*cking (and yes, there was a lot of headf*cking) that went on was due to me having to say "I am this, I am that" and I just can't be arsed anymore. Since I decided not to worry about it, and just go for who I really liked, I have been far happier, and as a bonus have met my soul mate. I'm not fond of the term "soul mate", but he kinda is.
And I feel really comfortable, knowing that I haven't missed out, and that I know what's going on, and I'm not going to be suddenly thrown by someone of, say, the same sex, because I know that he's the one, because I've been there. I know you can't predict who you'll meet in the future, but I feel happy that he's it. Although it's been a hell of a journey, I've ended up happier and more grounded than so many more people I know.
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wdlove said:I'm not bisexual. I have chatted with a female that is, it's quite interesting to hear her stories. Don't remember exact details. Don't know if I could repeat them if I could.
Funnily, that was one of the things that screwed up my head for a while. For some reason, it was ok to be monogamous if you were straight or gay, but every bisexual I knew would seem to be sleeping with a good handful of men and women at the same time, which wasn't really my bag, baby.
I'm a straight male, but does dating a lesbian count? Yeah, still going through that for those who might be wondering. Now she says she confused. SHE's confused. Imagine how I feel. Guess that makes her bi. I think she just can't admit that she's a lesbian, but it's nice that she humors me. I still think she's worth it.
In my experiance, most of the guys I know who claim to be bi are just gay. But most of the women were just slutty (not that there's anything wrong with that). Not saying that means anything, just what I've seen.
Imagine how I feel. Guess that makes her bi. I think she just can't admit that she's a lesbian, but it's nice that she humors me. I still think she's worth it.In my experiance, most of the guys I know who claim to be bi are just gay. But most of the women were just slutty (not that there's anything wrong with that). Not saying that means anything, just what I've seen.
Lau: It's great that you've find the right person for you and that you have come to terms with yourself.
solvs: I think it's a bit dangerous to claim that your friends who consider themselves to be bi are just gay. For many that may true, but if you really do consider yourself to be their friend I think they deserve the benefit of the doubt.
solvs: I think it's a bit dangerous to claim that your friends who consider themselves to be bi are just gay. For many that may true, but if you really do consider yourself to be their friend I think they deserve the benefit of the doubt.
No, they're gay. Have only known a few, but all either turned out to be gay or only have sex with men. Maybe I should have said people I know rather than friends, and I'm not meaning to say that about all bisexuals. Just the few that I've known.gekko513 said:
Not saying that means anything, just what I've seen.
Edit: No advice on the lesbian g/f huh?
I guess it depends on how you define bisexual. Is it based on emotional attachments to both sexes, is it based on a physical attraction to both sexes, or is it a combination of both?
I self identify as Gay today. But an ex Gay lover that did introduce me to a woman that that I truly loved, and was engaged to (don't ask, it deals with dead step-fathers and rediscovering of her religious roots).
Could I find myself loving a woman today, as I did with my ex Gay lover? Could be. For me it is about the emotional attachment, not the physical sex. Physical sex is an added bonus. The cuddling, the kisses, and the such mean so much more to me in the long run (not to mention the "love" between two people).
I self identify as Gay today. But an ex Gay lover that did introduce me to a woman that that I truly loved, and was engaged to (don't ask, it deals with dead step-fathers and rediscovering of her religious roots).
Could I find myself loving a woman today, as I did with my ex Gay lover? Could be. For me it is about the emotional attachment, not the physical sex. Physical sex is an added bonus. The cuddling, the kisses, and the such mean so much more to me in the long run (not to mention the "love" between two people).
solvs said:No, they're gay. Have only known a few, but all either turned out to be gay or only have sex with men. Maybe I should have said people I know rather than friends, and I'm not meaning to say that about all bisexuals. Just the few that I've known.
Not saying that means anything, just what I've seen.
Edit: No advice on the lesbian g/f huh?
You hit on something there though. Some call themselves to be bi-sexual in order to double their chances, or to make themselves "acceptable" in societies eyes.
This thread has given me some thought as to whom I have loved in my 47 years - or should I say since HS (truly loved, that is - meaning that I would have given and done almost anything for them).
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Two girls in HS and in the first year in college. And one girl that I met through a Gay lover. On the boy side, I have had four guys that I would count as "true" lovers (others might be considered "flings").
Today I consider myself to be Gay. But since I have had some "petting" experience with women, I am open to sexual exploration, but more importantly emotional support with who ever I am with .
Thank you for getting my point. I'm trying not to say anything stupid about homosexuals, but being straight, I guess it comes with the territory.Chip NoVaMac said:
bousozoku said:Hey, it works with an American English pronunciation.gekko513 said:Do you have to pay to be bisexual
Um... I still don't get it... "I thought that there were others, but maybe they stopped paying"?
Anybody else not get it?- Status