dukebound85 said:
i know what youre saying but you are so close minded that you cant see the benefits of knowing what your kids are doing. dont you think that would help the parent notice theres a problem and take further action. i mean you cant anticipate everything.
im sure you and myself have done many things that our parents had no clue to as what we did at one point or another........so how are you suppose to catch that?
Did the things that you and I have done ruin us as people? No. Like everyone else growing up, we made mistakes. But we were able to make those mistakes and we learned from them.
dukebound85 said:
so if your kid was contemplating suicide and expressed him/herself via a blog wouldnt you like to find out (even by means of a keylogger by golly) and try to offer help.
If you had a trusting relationship with your child (one that would only exist without the use of invasive "big-brother" tactics) perhaps your child wouldn't need hide his/her feelings behind a blog and would be open with you about their feelings?
The second your start monitoring your chilld's every keystroke, every movement via GPS, etc, you're telling them that you absolutely do not trust them.
With that kind of relationship, which is a very poor, ineffective, and harmful one, no wonder the child would resort to blogs - they'd have no one else they could trust.
dukebound85 said:
once again i suppose you would just block that avenue of expressing oneself and may jump to the point (as in suicide) sooner since no one will listen. how bad would you feel if you had the knowledge you could have caught on to something like this earlier.
Spying on your children is not being someone who "listens." If you had established trust as a parent, the child wouldn't have the problem of not having someone who would listen.
By eavesdropping them and shutting them out to a place only blogs exist, then listening in onto the bad things they may be blogging, you are not only learning about the problem, you are
causing it.
Typical authoriatian scheme. Create a problem, witness the problem, then propose a solution to the problem in an attempt to gain trust.
Works for dictators and corrupt governments, not so good for parents.
dukebound85 said:
you do know children do not have the same rights to privacy as adults right when it concerns parents..........ever try to think of the reason behind that?
Because too many children were raised in zero-trust environments, and as such grew up into adults that couldn't trust anyone either.
There is a difference between blind privacy and mutual trust. It is a significant difference.
dukebound85 said:
you obviously do not see my point of view which makes arguing with you pointless. i think your way is nice but you need to use it in conjuction with other things be it keyloggers if necessary
Of course I don't see your point of view - it's absurd, developmentally harmful, and ineffecient for the goal in context.
If you notice, there are several others here who are opposed to your view as well. Please take that for what it's worth.