Are you a good friend?

[devilot]

I think I'm loyal. And my last best friend (who backstabbed me more times than I can count)-- I have to admit, I just can't say no to her. She'd take advantage of me so many times, borrowing money she never re-paid, making empty promises, calling me desperately for a ride at 3AM, etc.

But I'm horrible at keeping in touch. And I hate leaving my comfort zone (both geographically, and emotionally as far as friends are concerned).

 

[YS2003]

I think I'm loyal. And my last best friend (who backstabbed me more times than I can count)-- I have to admit, I just can't say no to her. She'd take advantage of me so many times, borrowing money she never re-paid, making empty promises, calling me desperately for a ride at 3AM, etc.

OMG, that is a horrible friend (if you call her a friend), in my opinion. Usually, it is a good policy not to get "money" mixed in the friendship.

 

[Silentwave]

not really. I try, but i get pretty dependent and let it affect the friendship. When I don't do that, the friend stabs me in the back.

 

[cyberddot]

According to my friends, I am. I've learned to be a good friend, after lots of practice and a few mistakes along the way. I try to be a good listener, and failing that, I am a confidant for both friends and acquaintances - which often leads to confidence and trust that goes both ways. I don't have lots of friends that I'd call close, but I'd take a bullet in the shoulder for those in the 'circle of trust'. Honesty is an important thing for me, verging on 'baggage', but my friends know that, so the lack of it hasn't been an issue for many years.

My wife and I are versions of the best-friend to one another, but we're only monogamous when it comes to intimate contact.

 

[Blue Velvet]

I try. But you can't be all things to all people...

For instance, I'm hopeless at unconditional sympathy, coming as I am from the 'University of Hard Knocks & Getting a Grip'. I'm exceptionally gifted with gestures that don't involve much emotional cost... there are probably good reasons for that which I won't dwell too much on right now.

 

[Mord]

I try to be.

 

[skd]

be good

having lived a full life with a loving wife and great kids (who are adults) I've l've learned to be a friend to myself. And with that, I let that feeling radiate to the people who come in touch with me.
"If you can't be careful, be good"
cheers

 

[skd]

words

and these words always reminded of friends.

"Angel came down from heaven yesterday
She stayed with me just long enough to rescue me
And she told me a story yesterday,
About the sweet love between the moon and the deep blue sea
And then she spread her wings high over me
She said she's gonna come back tomorrow

And I said, "Fly on my sweet angel,
Fly on through the sky,
Fly on my sweet angel,
Tomorrow I'm gonna be by your side"

Sure enough this morning came unto me
Silver wings silhouetted against the child's sunrise
And my angel she said unto me,
"Today is the day for you to rise
Take my hand, you're gonna be my man,
You're gonna rise"
And then she took high over yonder

And I said, "Fly on my sweet angel,
Fly on through the sky,
Fly on my sweet angel,
Forever I will be by your side"

peace