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Are you your parents' favorite child?

Mousse said:
I'm my Dad's favorite and my Mom's least favorite out of 5 sons.

So how much did my Mom NOT like me? I once brought a brand new digital camera ($1000 at the time) with my own hard earned money. Mom told me to hand it over to my brother, her favorite, and buy a new camera.:eek: They guy earned 5x what I made at the time. Give me a break, Mah.:rolleyes:
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That is nasty. If I were you, I would pretend that I was adopted.

Plus you don't want the illness to spread, so you could keep your kids (her Grand-Kids) at arms-length. ;)
 
maril1111 said:
I think my parents love me,my brother and sister equally so no, and i don't think it matters that much unless they clearly hate you....
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You were definitely not the favorite then. :p

Shrink said:
My sister is sure that I was my parents favorite child, and has spent her life being miserable about it. :(

Complete nonsense.
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Is your last name Goeller by chance? :D
 
Mousse said:
I'm my Dad's favorite and my Mom's least favorite out of 5 sons.

So how much did my Mom NOT like me? I once brought a brand new digital camera ($1000 at the time) with my own hard earned money. Mom told me to hand it over to my brother, her favorite, and buy a new camera.:eek: They guy earned 5x what I made at the time. Give me a break, Mah.:rolleyes:
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Wow. That's jacked up!

I am my mothers favorite (we think almost identically) although my father likes my sister and me equally and for different reasons (she thinks like him but I'm a tech geek like he is). I guess when I put it that way I get most of the attention. I'm the baby and my sister is 5 years older.

I do know that if they were asked they would never admit they have favorites. In terms of gifts and attention we both got equal shares (even for college!). My parents are pretty damn awesome.
 
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Pretty much my whole family thinks I am my father's favourite, when in reality we just get on really well, far better than he does with my older sister or younger brother. We just have a lot more in common.
 
My sister was always the obvious — and acknowledged — favourite. I paid for my own 3 year college diploma and was forced by circumstance to live at home; her 4 year university bachelors, teaching certificate and rent were paid for. I took the bus, she got a car. I bought calling cards, she got a cell phone.

I got beat. She got beat. We suffered that together.

I'm not griping or whinging here, I doubt if I were offered those things that I would take them. I like who I am and how hard I've worked to get here. And besides, I never had to get a restraining order against dear ol' dad, he left me alone after I moved away, and I hadn't seen him in years even before he got locked up.

In terms of the article, I was definitively more prepared for the adult world. My sister still suffers the damage from decades of abuse (or perhaps an unpreparedness born of being sheltered). Does it matter? I'm not sure. If things were more inclusive, I might've been more aware of what was happening to her and better able to protect her — and less inclined to consider her cries for help as spoiled attention seeking behaviour. If I was sent away to school, however, I might not have been there to spare her what I did. I don't regret having been given so much less. My only regret is that I was unable — or in youthful naiveté unwilling — to stop a tyrant or convince a doting parent of the blinders she had been wearing for so many long years.

But I digress.
 
maflynn said:
Let me answer that question by stating this:
When my sister and I finished high school and were getting ready for the next level, I was told that there was not enough money to send me to school, but my mother paid for my sister's college expenses. I had to work during the day, go to school at night and pay for it myself.
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Wow, that's rough.

Any reason? Was she older, or more academic?
 
I think a parent can not not have a favorite just based on differing personalities. Not saying that they don't love them all equally but they have to like one personality more than the others
 
I'm nothing at all like my family; my brother, mother and father are all engineers, while I'm destined to work in social sciences. I can tell my father is disappointed that maths and science aren't my strong suits. I think my dad definitely prefers my brother, but I'd say my mum favours me a little bit.
 
I don't know, my parents were very easy going when raising me, but strict when raising my sister, so I'm not sure if that means anything. Either way, they definitely loved us both growing up.
 
I'd say it's harder when you have larger age differences or any gender difference to see "preference."

My youngest brother (of two younger brothers) is only about 3.5 years younger than me, and it's really hard to say any of us were 'favored.'

They did things differently, sure, but anyone who raised one kid would be a fool to not learn something and do something differently on the second/third ones :)
 
My mom adores me. I'm my dad's second fav after my older brother (which I guess makes his least favorite cause there is only two of us...)

However, my dad's side of the family favors me a lot, and my mom's side of the family doesn't really like me....
 
I am the oldest, the only girl and the favored child (not to say the most loved, just the most favored). I have two younger brothers who are more useless than useless, so it's not surprising that my mom favors the child that is able to survive on her own, and calls just to say hi rather than whine about not having any money.
 
As an adult or child?

Growing up I was the middle, and definitely least favorite child(didn't help that I got into a lot of trouble :p) They got cars, they got huge %s of their college education paid for, I got no car and almost no help for college. They had these huge elaborate graduation parties, I was allowed to invite a few friends to my grandparent's retirement community where they had a pavilion. etc.

However now that we are all grown I am probably the favorite, mostly because I didn't do anything really stupid like my siblings did.... Though now that I live overseas it's hard to say, whenever I'm home my mom seems to go out of her way to be nice to me because she wants me to move back home, or at least come home more often.
 
i've got an older brother and a younger sister so i fit in the article's "least favorable" spot.
i don't think my parents had/have a clear favorite, or at least consistently and not overtly (if pushed, i think my little sis would get the nod)
more relevantly. i have two kids and honestly, as an anonymous poster I wouldn't know who to chose if i had to.

therefore i suppose i disagree with the premise of the article
 
I am. My elder brother (only sibling) pretty much stabbed the family in the back and more or less disowned us. I'm the favourite by default. But, prior to his poor decisions, yes, we were treated pretty equally.
 
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