....anydvd for windows is a huge help for this. Use that along with Handbrake for windows and I think you will have much better results.
Once it is coverted, then move it into itunes. If itunes is on a mac, copy it across the network or to a external drive or something to move it.
Personally I use mymovies on a windows home server. This is not a free solution, but it automates the entire process when you insert the disk. (Software rips bluray to drive, then can convert it to itunes compatible format, then spits the disk out). at this point all you have to do is put it into itunes.... which you could have run on the same windows home server... and access from any device that would connenct to iTunes running on a mac.
well, like I said at the beginning, I hate to recomend using windows... but in this case, I think it is the best tool for the process.