If you count the time they were dating it is 31 years they have been together. I found out earlier this week. I was not entirely surprised, as I knew they were having problems but I always though it would not happen until their youngest was out of high school which is a year away. I know alot of details, but not everything. I think the a large part of it is that there has been a lack of intimacy in their relationship, which in turn led him to have a couple of affairs over the past decade. There are secondary reasons, and they all revolve her inability to be a good wife/mother. He makes good money, and provides well for her so that she has never had to work, yet over the years I've endured complaints about her unwillingness to keep up with house work, and to even be sure that their kids brush their teeth (at the age of 14 their youngest son was diagnosed with gum disease so serious it prompted a call to my brother from the dentist). This is HIS side of the story. Over the years I have seen indications that she is more of a "taker" and not a giver, so I dont doubt that some of this is true. She is completely and utterly devastated. I talked with her earlier in the week and, and she went on a tirade that exposed alot of details about my brothers personal life that I really had rather not known. He apparently, in addition to the affairs has had a habit of going to massage parlors and going for the "happy ending" option, and was doing this at times when my elderly mother was down at their house for a visit. So he was leaving my mother in the care and company of his wife while he went to massage parlors... There is more that I was told also, but some of it is too bad to even post in a forum where I am more or less anonymous. Im really trying not to pick sides, but after finding out what I know I really feel bad for his wife. So, basically I am left with the impression that at least 60% of my brothers decision to leave is based on his wife not being intimate enough with him...To you married people out there, is that enough to file for divorce over?