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The Apple Remote is able to control the system volume with out a problem. Just use the + and - buttons.
 
I had just the opposite problem. the ATV2 remote was causing iTunes to play music on my iMac while I was moving through the ATV2 menu. I had to go into security and privacy settings to disable remote controller.
 
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