I have great news, I got my phone! Thanks to everyone who helped out, especially @mylexon20s b/c I went to the Riverdale Target and they had plenty (I think 5).
Below are my thoughts and experience since when I first started looking on Monday.
-istocknow is great in theory but it simply didn't work, I didn't get one alert so does this mean that there were literally no space grey 128gb at&t's? i doubt that having spoken to Apple Store employees who said they were available
-got to the grand central apple store at about 7:15am this morning and they had pretty much everything except my phone
-afterwards, i figured i would try to go to the at&t store by me just to check and they said they wouldn't be getting any until early December
-"Stocks are updated at 2, 11, 7 and 2 every day" - just from my experience I saw nothing that proved this to be true
-http://idevicechecker.com actually turned out being everything i was hoping istocknow would be, it showed that the Target I went to had it and then I went to the Target website to actually confirm and it was true
-On a whim I just went to the Target b/c their mobile division didn't open til 11am and I didn't want to wait, here's my experience from that...
-The entire process took entirely too long, probably at least 40 minutes, not complaining but it felt longer than necessary. The lady that helped me was super nice, but Target company policy is to sell you insurance, at first I tried to put up a fight but then I just took a $10 a month plan that I can cancel at anytime. If I would have fought it I'm sure I wouldn't have had to buy it. Here's what ticked me off the most though, the lady opens the box and takes out my iPhone. I was shocked, for all my three previous iPhones I was able to set up everything at home. I wanted to experience the "joy" of unboxing for myself. She said that was their policy so I just went with it. She made me make a call to see if the phone worked and then I was on my way. At the end of the day, I have no real gripes or complaints though, I got my phone and that's all that matters. Thanks again for everyone's help.