I shut off the ocm, took another CD, incerted it the lil bit it would go and pushed on the CD... turned com on, loaded it, pressed eject, and it came out.
I put it in again (stupid, I know) to see if it was the CD and not just the way I had put it in
and it got stuck, so I turned off, repeated, and I got it out again after two trieds.
then I put in a dif DVD I had here on the desk, it loaded right pu, played fine, and came out jsut fine!
so it's not something internal.