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Christmas gift for a girl I like but not dating....
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Oooh.. what about... inside the card, you leave a little pre-paid phone card so that you two can still keep in touch after she moves? Or it can be smuggled inside the book... although, if she never opened/read the book then it'd be lost there forever!
Not sure giving gifts to girls you're not even dating (and even to girls you ARE dating) is the best idea. But if you absolutely have to, then keep it small and cheap.
I'd say get her something that is special between the 2 of you. That is to say, if you happen to do something special with her between now and christmas, giving you approximately 3.5 more weeks for a total of 6 weeks, give her something that has to do with that. It does several things... 1) it lets her know that she's important to you, and you actually REMEMBERED whatever it was. 2) It gives her a feeling that there's probably more there than just friends.
Like if you went for a walk through a park and talked and laughed and had a really special evening, then you bought her something that reminded her of that evening. It just might be the sweetest gift she's ever received.
Like if you went for a walk through a park and talked and laughed and had a really special evening, then you bought her something that reminded her of that evening. It just might be the sweetest gift she's ever received.
I'd seriously blow her off... do something else on Christmas, don't talk to her.. and then after the whole bash is over... show up to her house with a handful of $.099 toys with the gas station stickers still on them.
See what type of sexual favors it gets you.
See what type of sexual favors it gets you.
Hmm, if we're going for total rejection here, why not just stick with good old fashioned liver or 10 pounds of beef? She's sure be impressed!
Ummm... I just don't see the problem. Just date her, OK? You both want to, and in 5 years you'll both be saying "Damn I wish we had .... back then. Boy, were we dumb".
Dating != Lifetime Committment != "True Love"
In fact
Love != Lifetime committment
and even "True Love" > 1 per lifetime
Dating = Dating = 2 people enjoying each other's company
and if you want to stretch the point
Life = indeterminate length
(Besides, it would make choosing gifts easier...)
Dating != Lifetime Committment != "True Love"
In fact
Love != Lifetime committment
and even "True Love" > 1 per lifetime
Dating = Dating = 2 people enjoying each other's company
and if you want to stretch the point
Life = indeterminate length
(Besides, it would make choosing gifts easier...)
They're not dating for a reason.. and the reason is either fear or lack of interest.
Either way.. it ain't happening.
I don't know them or the situation, but from my experience, two people who are into each other, don't make up excuses why they're not.
Either way.. it ain't happening.
I don't know them or the situation, but from my experience, two people who are into each other, don't make up excuses why they're not.
here's a tip... buy her an amazingly expensive diamond necklace. tell her you love her. it's a great combo, usually melts their panties right off. then you have sex with her and if you still like her afterwards, congrats, she's a keeper. if not, well, you got your money's worth. cheers.
cheers.
CanadaRAM said:
You're right, the choice is easy --- matching tombstones it is.
I do see your point, though. I thought about it, but I don't really want to date someone short term. I'm 25 and have never had a long term relationship. Since I travel a lot, my reason for not having one is because I have travelled a lot and because I always get myself into situations like this, where one person is definitely moving away. Usually, that person is me, but now it's the girls who are moving away.
Trying to break the cycle, if you understand.
How is she gonna reach her brand new deep-fryer when I already have her chained to the stove?
Raven VII said:
Interesting. What's your rationale here? Buying gifts for girls is one of the thorniest subjects I ever have to deal with. Too much? Insultingly little? Not "put enough thought into it"? aarrrrgh.
Raven VII said:
I would agree that it can be problematic to get a gift to a female platonic friend. Not because the friendship doesn't warrant such a gesture, but if you're only getting a gift for her and not other female friends, then you're basically telling her you want romance. It sounds like you kind of do, but it puts her in a position of having to decide and maybe she doesn't want to address that. As someone who's never had luck turning a platonic friend into a girlfriend, I'm probably not good at this subject, but my feeling is that it's better to make that move without a gift. If you do it through a gift, she might feel obligated to say yes just out of appreciation. I could be wrong though.
I'm also not the kind of person who gives a lot of gifts to friends or expects to get them. It's usually smaller random gestures than gifts on birthdays and holidays.
CanadaRAM said:
That could have been clearer without the arithmetic, but I agree. You shouldn't pass up a potential relationship in the expectation that it will end down the line. The vast majority of relationships don't work out in the long run, so by his logic, he should avoid relationships altogether.
So many things can happen during those eight months that would change things. What if you fell so madly in love that one of you moved with the other? What if the move didn't end up happening after all? What if one of you met someone else and the other was left wondering what might have been?
The way I look at it, whether you meet someone you really click with is mostly a matter of luck. Meet a lot of people and eventually you'll meet a person you really dig. But it's up to you to make something happen if/when you find him/her. If you leave it up to fate (or destiny, karma, or whatever), then not only will it probably not happen, you won't have resolved it in your own mind. Wondering what might have been is way worse than being disappointed that it didn't work out.
carbonmotion said:here's a tip... buy her an amazingly expensive diamond necklace. tell her you love her. it's a great combo, usually melts their panties right off. then you have sex with her and if you still like her afterwards, congrats, she's a keeper. if not, well, you got your money's worth.
LOL!
Oh yeah, shiny things are good. Shiny things and a nice meal.
I usually don't get gifts for friends not even my closer friends. Though she will think it is sweet, I don't happent to have any lady friends that would want to date me, and the feeling is mutual for the most part. However it appears you will have to make a choice, and I like most of the suggestions so far. You have to just go for it. I really like your first thought, CD Box-set of her favorite group. A Box-Set is something she will keep, and she will keep the card, too.
Someone said to throw out the flowers idea, I disagree. Send flowers! I sent some flowers to a friend of mine who was in the hospital, the thing I sent was $60 had a bear, flowers, and candy. That was only because this girl has been in and out of the hospital for a very long time, and she is a very good friend of mine. I have no intention on dating her, in fact she not only has a boyfriend but she lives 1000 miles from here. I sent the flowers online, and they were a hit with her, her mom, she even said the doctors and nurses liked them.
Umm.. get the flower gift basket with a card PLUS CD Box set?
Someone said to throw out the flowers idea, I disagree. Send flowers! I sent some flowers to a friend of mine who was in the hospital, the thing I sent was $60 had a bear, flowers, and candy. That was only because this girl has been in and out of the hospital for a very long time, and she is a very good friend of mine. I have no intention on dating her, in fact she not only has a boyfriend but she lives 1000 miles from here. I sent the flowers online, and they were a hit with her, her mom, she even said the doctors and nurses liked them.
Umm.. get the flower gift basket with a card PLUS CD Box set?
Abstract said:
Well, I'm a girl and from your description I say don't get her the typical gift that makes its rounds every Christmas. Avoid the "cute and corny" stuff, think "useful and practical" - something she'd REALLY appreciate.
Abstract said:
Abstract said:
IS SHE AN ALIEN!!!!
ARE YOU AN ALIEN?????? Haha. just kidding.
Get her an iPod with "Wanna go out sometime?" engraved on it.
edit- wow... Im so weird. haha
w_parietti22 said:IS SHE AN ALIEN!!!!
Haha. just kidding.
Get her an iPod with "Wanna go out sometime?" engraved on it.
edit- wow... Im so weird. haha
Lol I quite like that idea. At least it's different and it'll get her laughing (hopefully).
Alien? Maybe illegal alien. Oooh, I wish. That way she can stay.
No worries. You're like 13-14 or something, so weirdness comes with your age group. Things get weirder between 19-21, and then the weirdness slows down at 24-26. I'm 25, so yeah its kinda downhill.
She's quite girly, though. She's very smart (like straight A+ at Uni kind of smart), and is also very smart when it come smart, open-minded, insightful, etc. However, she's very much a girl, so you're right in saying maybe a "cute" gift isn't the best thing to get her, but "practical" may not be either. I'm looking for something that she'll remember for a long time. It doesn't have to be expensive or flashy, but memorable. I was hoping for something clever, but I'm not sure if that's going to work.
I'm gonna go with the wine + 2 movie passes thing. After the movie, I'm gonna take her to the beach for a walk. We've been doing that regularly over the past 2 weeks anyway, but it will still be nice. If I think of something more clever afterwards, I'll do that instead.
Thanks y'all.
Oooh, I wish. That way she can stay. w_parietti22 said:edit- wow... Im so weird. haha
No worries. You're like 13-14 or something, so weirdness comes with your age group.
Things get weirder between 19-21, and then the weirdness slows down at 24-26. I'm 25, so yeah its kinda downhill.acceber said:
She's quite girly, though. She's very smart (like straight A+ at Uni kind of smart), and is also very smart when it come smart, open-minded, insightful, etc. However, she's very much a girl, so you're right in saying maybe a "cute" gift isn't the best thing to get her, but "practical" may not be either. I'm looking for something that she'll remember for a long time. It doesn't have to be expensive or flashy, but memorable. I was hoping for something clever, but I'm not sure if that's going to work.
I'm gonna go with the wine + 2 movie passes thing. After the movie, I'm gonna take her to the beach for a walk. We've been doing that regularly over the past 2 weeks anyway, but it will still be nice.
If I think of something more clever afterwards, I'll do that instead.Thanks y'all.