college and my girlfriend

[abijnk]

My fiance and I started dating when I was 15 and he was 18. Naturally he went off to college and I was still in high school. We made it through that just fine talking on the phone and seeing each other on weekends.

Right now we are doing the LONG distance thing. He is in Southern California, I am in Southern Illinois (right at 2000 miles). Still going strong.

My point is, its doable, you just have to be willing to accept that you will hit bumps and you will have to work to keep things going. You also need to be prepared to accept that it might not work out, and be able to recognize when things are over so that you aren't both miserable in the relationship when it isn't necessary.

My advice would be to make sure you guys are talking about things and know where each other stands with regards to your commitment to keep your relationship strong.

Best of luck!

 

[northy124]

im going there to play soccer.

It is football

And only 1 hour 15 minutes, you think that is long distance, oh dear. Just drive it, really is it hard to drive for 1 hour 15 minutes?

As it is I think you talk to her to much lol (from what I understood in your post).

 

[Finlandboy]

It is football

yah i know but everyone in America would be confused,, lol

and i can easily drive that distance, its just i was looking for tips and stuff about how to keep out relationship together while being apart and just over all advice about the situation.

 

[northy124]

It could just be me but from:

we text each other all day, and we talk on the phone usually at night and i was going to set her up so that we could web chat.

I'd say you are already doing enough to keep the relationship going, so long as you see each other at least every other weekend you will be fine.

Personally I think you are talking to much by txt and phone lol

 

[ViciousShadow21]

yah i know but everyone in America would be confused,, lol

and i can easily drive that distance, its just i was looking for tips and stuff about how to keep out relationship together while being apart and just over all advice about the situation.

do your own thing. dont let the distance trick you into thinking that you have to work extra hard to make it work. if you both concentrate on your own work and just support each other. think of her more as your best friend than your girlfriend. that way you guys can grow together as people.

 

[InvalidUserID]

An hour or so isn't that far apart, really. I've done a LA-Bay relationship that lasted a year or so and had a Italy-NY fling that lasted almost a year. Both of those ended due to reasons other than distance. If you both want to make it work, you will regardless of the distance.

Just remember: quality of time together, not quantity.

 

[MattG]

It's a bit early in our relationship for me to be saying this, but my girlfriend and I live about 100 miles apart from each other, and it hasn't been a problem. We talk every day online and/or on the phone, and we make it a point to see each other at least every other week. If you both put in the effort, it's not so bad.

 

[Finlandboy]

thanx guys, all of your alls advice really helped, im less worried about it now,

huh, who'd of guessed i'd get relationship advice on a tech related forum, haha

but seriously thanx a ton!!!

 

[0098386]

thanx guys, all of your alls advice really helped, im less worried about it now,

huh, who'd of guessed i'd get relationship advice on a tech related forum, haha

but seriously thanx a ton!!!

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But yea don't fret it. Plus it makes all the times you do see her even more special. During heavy work/coursework months for me or my girlfriend we might not see each other for a 3-4 weeks... And I tell you what </Hank Hill> seeing someone you love after that amount of time is an incredible thing .

 

[Eanair]

I've found that if you want to make a relationship work, and both of you are willing to put effort into keeping it up and maintaining it, you will find a way to make it work.

My friend went to college and was 1.5 hours away from her boyfriend during all 4 years of college. They've kept it up and are still going strong. For them, they maintained it by talking on the phone or email (or both) almost every night, and made a point to see each other on the weekends. Communication/contact every day is vital, even if it's just a simple email or text/phone message saying "I love you".

I've maintained my relationship with my partner now for several years long distance. We talk every day via email or phone, and definitely call each other on the weekends. While it's hard, and I won't lie and say it isn't, it's something we both want, and are willing to maintain and not let fizzle away.

Talk to each other. Find out what your worries are about the long distance, and find a way to confront them. Be aware both of you will have to work at maintaining your relationship if you're in a long distance one, and while it will be incredibly tricky and frustrating at times, it's not something that you can't overcome if you take a deep breath and rethink how to address the issues that are bothering you about the distance, and talk to your girlfriend about them.

I've maintained a relationship with my partner for years now. One of us is in America. The other in England. So, there's only the Atlantic Ocean between us. But, we've made it work.

 

[instaxgirl]

It takes me over an hour just to get to my university every day! It's not that bad of a distance, if you both want to you'll make it work

 

[jb60606]

good god, man. I know people whose daily commute to work is twice the distance and time.

If you weewee wubbed her, a negligible 1.25hr commute is an afterthought.


Side note: ease off the pedal, a bit, if you know what I mean . I hate being the cynic, but you're both young and impressionable entering into what will be one of the most life-altering and culture-shocking experiences of your entire life.

 

[Rapmastac1]

I'll give in my two cents. I have dated several girls over my high school time - didn't really have a girlfriend longer than 6 months now that I think of it. (I also noticed that I have never had a girlfriend - or dated one - during the weeks of Valentines day, lucky me!).

I couldn't imagine jumping into college with a girlfriend - I'm going to college next year but will be at my own place, so it might not be as big of a change as it is for you. If you really love her and it isn't just lust and butterflies, then the test will be easy.

I can't say I know what true love between a couple feels like, most of my dates have been physical now. As my wise teacher told me "Date for looks, marry for money", haha. So I'm not a very good judge on whether the relationship is going to be worth the trouble. But I have always remembered some things family members have told me. Some of them wished they would have dated around (tested the waters if you will) before they found "the one" and got married. Most people here get married at 18 and crank out a kid, it's sad!

Just like anything else though, what is the worst that can happen? If you two fall apart during the time - then that means you really weren't meant for each other. If you stay, as I mentioned above passing the test, then you two were obviously meant for each other longer.

Hopefully I didn't just confuse you more. I just wouldn't worry too much about it to be honest. "Let nature take its course".