So, this is sort of a venting thread, but I would like to know what you would do...
I have been with my fiance for almost 5 years now. We are both in college, and as such we still live with our parents. For this current school year we have been living at his house, under the consent of his parents (Dad and Step-mom) so that it is easier on us (and who wouldn't want to live with their fiance??).
At first, his step-mom and I got along really well, she's a lot younger than his dad, so she was really cool. I, of course, was really excited because you always hear those stories about the evil mother-in-law, so I thought I had avoided this. Well, as soon as I moved in this year (again, under her and her husbands consent) I naturally started showering there as well. It didn't take long, though, for me to start noticing her doing small things to me and my fiance (mostly me).
First, when we moved in we asked if we could get a pet, and we ended up getting a Chinchilla, again with their consent. She started doing little things like letting the little kids (4 and 5 now) come in whenever we were gone. We came in one day to find that the 5 year old had been let to go in our room and she had dumped the chins food out all over the floor. It was just little things like that.
Then, I started noticing that any time she was home and I took a shower that the hot water didn't last very long. It didn't take me too long to figure out it wasn't a coincidence. So, today I was busy cleaning our room and cleaning my chins cage (its really big, so it takes a while) and didn't take a shower until later in the day. I walked down stairs right past her (she even looked at me and smiled) and I went into the shower. I was shaving (after having been in the shower for about 5 minutes) when all of the sudden the water pressure went way down. Then all of a sudden the water was ICE cold. I don't know if you have ever had ice cold water hit you all of a sudden, but it knocks the breath out of you. I fell forward, and since I had a razor in my hand shaving, I cut a chunk out of my ankle. When I came out of the shower I saw her sitting just where she had been, but now the washing machine was magically on with the water temp set to hot. It was so obvious that she had done it on purpose. I wouldn't have been surprised if there weren't actually any clothes in there...
I think part of it might be the fact that I know she is having an affair. Actually, anybody with half a brain could see that she is having an affair. She has recently made it obvious that she is getting ready to leave her husband for this other guy. She had my fiance and I go through and get all of her stuff out of the closet we use so she can "reorganize"... Right, if you saw the house you would know there is no reorganizing it...
What should I do?? I have no idea how to handle this situation. For tonight I have gone back to my parents. If you were in my situation would you confront her? I realize that its her house, and that if she wants me to leave I have no recourse, but she has never asked me to leave. And this time she actually caused me physical harm.
I have been with my fiance for almost 5 years now. We are both in college, and as such we still live with our parents. For this current school year we have been living at his house, under the consent of his parents (Dad and Step-mom) so that it is easier on us (and who wouldn't want to live with their fiance??).
At first, his step-mom and I got along really well, she's a lot younger than his dad, so she was really cool. I, of course, was really excited because you always hear those stories about the evil mother-in-law, so I thought I had avoided this. Well, as soon as I moved in this year (again, under her and her husbands consent) I naturally started showering there as well. It didn't take long, though, for me to start noticing her doing small things to me and my fiance (mostly me).
First, when we moved in we asked if we could get a pet, and we ended up getting a Chinchilla, again with their consent. She started doing little things like letting the little kids (4 and 5 now) come in whenever we were gone. We came in one day to find that the 5 year old had been let to go in our room and she had dumped the chins food out all over the floor. It was just little things like that.
Then, I started noticing that any time she was home and I took a shower that the hot water didn't last very long. It didn't take me too long to figure out it wasn't a coincidence. So, today I was busy cleaning our room and cleaning my chins cage (its really big, so it takes a while) and didn't take a shower until later in the day. I walked down stairs right past her (she even looked at me and smiled) and I went into the shower. I was shaving (after having been in the shower for about 5 minutes) when all of the sudden the water pressure went way down. Then all of a sudden the water was ICE cold. I don't know if you have ever had ice cold water hit you all of a sudden, but it knocks the breath out of you. I fell forward, and since I had a razor in my hand shaving, I cut a chunk out of my ankle. When I came out of the shower I saw her sitting just where she had been, but now the washing machine was magically on with the water temp set to hot. It was so obvious that she had done it on purpose. I wouldn't have been surprised if there weren't actually any clothes in there...
I think part of it might be the fact that I know she is having an affair. Actually, anybody with half a brain could see that she is having an affair. She has recently made it obvious that she is getting ready to leave her husband for this other guy. She had my fiance and I go through and get all of her stuff out of the closet we use so she can "reorganize"... Right, if you saw the house you would know there is no reorganizing it...
What should I do?? I have no idea how to handle this situation. For tonight I have gone back to my parents. If you were in my situation would you confront her? I realize that its her house, and that if she wants me to leave I have no recourse, but she has never asked me to leave. And this time she actually caused me physical harm.
): Get some compromising pictures of her and "the other man" and see if that gets you any bargaining leverage. If not, leave them somewhere conspicuous.
