Anyone who posts a question phrased like a how-to in the subject line should be sent to internet etiquette camp.
Excuse me for waisting your time, mcdj. I tried to be as specific as possible in the subject as I do myself hate subjects like "Help please" and so on. Now that you point it out I can see that it looks like a solution, not like a question. I think it is too late to change it now, but I will have a go at it.
Moaning ... well, call it what you want. Unnecessary minor feature? It should not really be that hard to do, just as was done to ringtones/alarmtones. It is about making an already phone even better, so "get another phone" is not a valid solution. I am not asking it to be able to run flash or windows apps, I just wish that millions of users could be saved the annoyance of daily pickup up the phone just to discover that the SMS you just got, was not on your iPhone, but the guy next to you. For that reason only I have chosen, not my favorite SMS tone, but the one I hear most seldom - which I think is "Chime".
I like Apple products. I am not a "fanboy" but definitely not regretting changing from Windows to Mac in early 2008. Oh, my life is so much easier now, and I gather for every thing I don't like about the Mac, there were ten things in Windows I did not like.
Those few Mac things I don't really get are minor, the important ones are all in favor of Mac, and against Windows. Example: Windows has a right-click options in finder/explorer called "cut", so I can move files, even across drives, without having to drag or open multiple windows. "Cut" the file(s), go to the new location, click "Paste". Done. Not on Mac, if I use copy, I still have to come back and delete the originals, or use drag-drop with - what is it - option I think.
Yes, these things are minor, just a pity that Apple products are so close to being perfect, but I guess they like to "keep us wanting" ...