So, you go on a first or second date with someone. They are nice but during the date you realize you're not interested and don't really want to continue seeing that person -- and don't need anymore friends. Do you tell the person off the bat its not gonna work? How do you deal with follow-up questions that you know aren't going to make the person feel good when they get the answer? If its a first or second date, do you even owe the person an explanation and --do they want one? Of course, this post is motivated by personal experience. I went on a few first dates several weeks ago and at the end when I politely told the person I wasn't interested it was like I was breaking up with someone I had had a 3 year relationship with or something. I knew there was a reason I stayed in bedroom with my PS3. I changed my strategy and decided to simply not schedule another date with someone but continued to get trailing text messages and calls asking "why". Personally, when I've dated someone I realize isn't interested in *me* I "get it" when the person doesn't commit to a date immediately after the first one and doesn't contact me. Since its only a first(or even a second) date I'm honestly not hurt. If you have dated recently or remember when you did--did you remember wanting closure and a reason after a first or second date that didn't work out for the other person or did you not care?