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Depressing day

vniow said:
I'm trying to figure out why I'm thinking so much about a girl I met at a party last Saturday whom I had to say less than 15 words to...

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That's what it was like when I first met my girlfriend. I couldn't stop thinking about her... care to share your story? :)
 
haiggy said:
care to share your story? :)
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I went to a party last Saturday in Santa Cruz since I was going down there to pick up some equipment (Its a good 90 miles from where I live at but I lives there for 5 years so I have a lot of connections and friends there) so while I was there I met up with a friend of mine who lives in San Francisco who was also visiting friends down there (we share quite a few) so we both went over to our friend Taila's place mostly to say hi and hang out for awhile. While we're there, Talia's housemate Jenny walks in with her bike and while I think she's kinda cute, I don't say anything to her since I've never seen her before and whatnot.
So later that night at around 10-11ish, we all head off to the party and we all (naturally) get drunk and sometime later, Jenny walks in (separate from us) and somehow we end up dancing together. I can tell she's not exactly sober either but hell, she seemed to enjoy it. We don't say much but we kiss occasionally and somehow we both end up on the sofa and start a medium-heavy makeout session (which was really nice).
So at around 1 AM or so she gets up and says she has to get up early tomorrow. We both say bye (with huge grins on our faces) and that's the last I see of her for the night.

The next day, Crystal (SF friend) and I go over to Talia's for a little dinner get-together before we both have to head back up north and I see Jenny when I walk in the door. She has sort of a surprised look on her face and says something like "Hi, uhh, how are you?" and I can tell she's feeling kinda awkward so I just reply with "I'm doing okay, how about you" and she says "Oh, fine." or something like that, I really don't remember, not important anyway, more important was the fact that she was surprised to see me again and felt awkward when I walked in the door.
The rest of the gang and I were in the kitchen and Jenny walks in, we sort of ignore each other but she looks straight at me for a half-second or so, like our eyes meet for a short bit and then she goes back in her room.

The thing that's bothering me is that I'm thinking about her so much, I hardly know her, barley talked with her, and realise she lives an hour and a half away but I can't get her out of my head. I've went to parties and made out with girls I hardly knew before but I just forgot about it the next day but not with her and I don't know why....

I'm probably reading too much into this, like it was just one night and I should just let it go, but right now all I'm trying to think of is an excuse to go down there and see her again.
 
vniow said:
Wow, that last post was so depressing that it killed the thread.
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It reminded me of a few too many experiences of my own.


this is a depressing thread.
 
Make the pancakes with water. I was out of milk once, and made them with water, and they turned out GREAT!
 
vniow said:
So what happened with those experiences if I may ask?

*continues to remain frustrated*
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for the most recent ones off the top of my head (chronologically):

extreme awkwardness when i found found out she went and hooked up with my friend a few hours after me; slight awkwardness that increased to the point of some nasty lies (not from me); nothing but frustration; nothing; becoming "friends" with the girl; and most recently, nothing.

Like I said, depressing.
 
vniow said:
2k16 is a ways from now, I have plenty of time to practice.
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Um maybe I don't want to depress myself, but what's going to happen in 2016? Is it the end of the world or something?? I though the Mayan calendar said it was December 23rd 2012....
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Cheer up guys! :)
 
vniow said:
I went to a party last Saturday... <snip>
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LOL great way to start a long lasting relationship :rolleyes:

*pessimistic about everything*


To add to the depression, I just took an electronics test, and I only had about 1/3 of the equations needed in my notes (note to self - go to class more often :D), so I for sure knew 1/3 of the answers, and the rest - guesstimates... oh well.. Christmas will be here soon and I can forget about that during the break...
 
vniow said:
right now all I'm trying to think of is an excuse to go down there and see her again.
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So, think of an excuse to go down there again and see her!
Single, attracted, and a full tank of gas? Why the heck not?
;)

(heck, reading the narrative made ME want to go down and check her out... apart from the slight problems of being 900 miles away, married, and a guy...:eek: )
 
Raid said:
Um maybe I don't want to depress myself, but what's going to happen in 2016? Is it the end of the world or something?? I though the Mayan calendar said it was December 23rd 2012....
:cool:

Cheer up guys! :)
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Its is not the end, but only the beginning...

kainjow said:
LOL great way to start a long lasting relationship :rolleyes:

*pessimistic about everything*
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Hey, my boss met his wife of 10 years at a party in France one night. They now have a couple kids to their name. :)

*still frustrated about stuff*

CanadaRAM said:
So, think of an excuse to go down there again and see her!
Single, attracted, and a full tank of gas? Why the heck not?
;)
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Single yes, attracted yes, full tank of gas no (although its under $2.00 a gallon around here now, shouldn't cost too much to fill up)

I have no idea how to approach her though, the way she acted the next day makes me think that she's over it, but I do remember her having a huge smile on her face that night and she gave me an intriguing look the next day so I dunno.

I'm not really expecting a relationship out of it or anything (would be kinda nice but the logistics of living 90 miles away among other issues, more personal), I'm more trying to figure out why I can't stop thinking about her after something that in the grand scheme of things is likely insignificant, mostly wondering why this one stands out....


And she's my latest crush Trevor, you can't have her....
 
vniow said:

I have no idea how to approach her though, the way she acted the next day makes me think that she's over it, but I do remember her having a huge smile on her face that night and she gave me an intriguing look the next day so I dunno.

I'm not really expecting a relationship out of it or anything (would be kinda nice but the logistics of living 90 miles away among other issues, more personal), I'm more trying to figure out why I can't stop thinking about her after something that in the grand scheme of things is likely insignificant, mostly wondering why this one stands out....
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Well, it'll go one way or another, won't it -- if you call her and say you're thinking of coming down again, would she like to get together in a cafe or for a drink (leaving the option of dancing or whatever open) and she responds negatively to a low-risk non-threatening approach, then you know.

If she says yes, then you have a basis for figuring out what type of relationship you both want -- if any.

OTOH if the delicious torture of not knowing is preferable, then by all means, drag it out... ;)

PS: You've changed from Violet to Blue -- is this the MR Mood Ring effect?

;)
 
Well, I know this won't help the relationship-type-stuff-posters/people, but I thought I would let you all know that things have gotten a little better.

The snow ended up turning into a bit of rain, but nothing really. Plus it was quite nice outside today.

My paper get done yesterday evening and was emailed to the prof and a hard copy was dropped off at her office this morning. Plus I ened up with enough time to watch a few episodes of the BBC Office. Brilliant TV, it is. I look forward to watching the American version when we get back from India (and to think our Office kick began with the TV being on (which is rare) NBC (which is rarer, since all we watch are The Simpsons and football), and the Christmas episode coming on).

My wife actually got home fast (because everyone went rushing home yesterday afternoon), so I saw her 40 min after work instead of like the rest of this week 2 hours (beltway+christmas=:mad:).

I didn't get pancakes, because we have no milk, so I ate ice cream instead. I think I ended up much happier doing that. Oh, and I don't like water in pancakes (tried it once) or hot chocolate, although orange juice and Oreos are a wonderful combination.

My job prospects are still stalled, but my wife-coworkers'-friends have been reaching out to their friends and some people are asking for resumes "just in case something opens up." So, they may figure themselves out yet. The sooner I get a job, the sooner we have kids! :D

So, the moral of the story is - no matter how bothered something makes you, and how much the bothering things pile up, happiness is just plowing ahead doing what you think is right. Sometimes you just have to listen to your gut and you tell both your heart and your mind to blow off.
 
I guess my whole experience went better.

I met my girlfriend at work in the summer (at my cottage) and I couldn't stop thinking about her... and I was really attracted to her. She is 2 years older and kept on saying how dating a guy 2 years younger would be so weird, so I kept thinking I had no chance or whatever. I kept trying to stop myself from thinking about her and stop liking her, but it just didn't work. Turns out she was just saying that so the other workers wouldn't think badly of her... but now she doesn't care what people think. At work we were all close friends only after about 20 days... and we decided to go camping for 3 nights or so. The first night we both get drunk and I keep hitting on her, thinking "Why not? I guess I will find out if she likes me tonight or not" I think we were both afraid to say anything because of obvious reasons... anyways back to the camping night lol We were both drunk and she told me to come into her tent and the rest of the guys stayed at the fire. Then her and I both told each other how we felt about each other and started making out pretty hardcore... kind of what you described I would imagine. That night was so great... I felt so happy lol

But unlike you, the next day she was all over me and things have gone great since then. 5 months later we are still together and its great. Her family lives up where my cottage is, but she happened to go to university a 5 minute walk from my highschool!!!! That includes her residence. Man, I definitely lucked out. It was a pretty weird coincidence lol

But anyways, sorry to hear that yours didn't work out like mine did. I can't tell you how great it is. I'm sure if you are meant to hook up with the girl you will, and if not there is always somebody else for you.
 
I guess it's good to know that I'm not the only one with the school/graduation/work blues.

I've pretty much come to the conclusion that there will be no jobs in film available when I graduate next semester. I was/am getting real frustrated trying to get my foot in the door somewhere. I know internships are about the only way to do that but internship don't pay the bills and full time school + getting a job to pay bills + interning = no time to do anything including sleep. And I'm sorry if this sounds elitist but I'm not getting a degree in film so I can hold a boom mic or be the 2nd assistant to the 4th director. So in my frustration, I applied for a supervisor job for a frieght shipping company I've worked for off and on for the past 9 years. Not what I really wanted to do with my life but it's a steady paycheck.

So, to the OP, I understand completely.
 
CanadaRAM said:
PS: You've changed from Violet to Blue -- is this the MR Mood Ring effect?

;)
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Running out of readable colours here for one page of the thread...

I don't have her number or anything, but I'm sure I can think of a way to make it down there again soonish (note to self; talk to Crystal later tonight) and I'm wondering whether to just be flat-out honest with her, like come right out and say that I can't stop thinking about her, that I don't know why, that I'm not expecting anything past this and I want to know why. Or would that be a bit too honest and too forward so should I take a more casual approach, maybe go out with a group of friends and see if she still feels awkward.

The last thing I want to do is potentially ruin this by making her feel uncomfortable but at the same time, I really really want to stop feeling so frustrated.

haiggy said:
But anyways, sorry to hear that yours didn't work out like mine did. I can't tell you how great it is. I'm sure if you are meant to hook up with the girl you will, and if not there is always somebody else for you.
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I suppose, I know there's more out there and I'm probably thinking too much into this but that doesn't make my head any less clouded right now.
 
vniow said:

I don't have her number or anything, but I'm sure I can think of a way to make it down there again soonish (note to self; talk to Crystal later tonight) and I'm wondering whether to just be flat-out honest with her, like come right out and say that I can't stop thinking about her, that I don't know why, that I'm not expecting anything past this and I want to know why. Or would that be a bit too honest and too forward so should I take a more casual approach, maybe go out with a group of friends and see if she still feels awkward.
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Well, unless she already has the uncontrollable hots for you, the spilling-my-guts approach is pretty much guaranteed to make it the shortest conversation of the year. "Umm.. Yeah.. Thanks, I really have to be running now.." Trust me on this one - the only person on the planet for whom this confession will make sense is the one in front of your keyboard whose elevated brain chemistry is making her twitterpated about Jenny.

I think you need to get together with her in a non-pressured way, but OUT of the public eye, and see how she reacts to you. Having her friends around is a drawback, because she may be pressured into behaving differently in front of them. Of course if she won't agree to meet you alone, then you have a much longer courtship ahead of you...
 
haiggy said:
I'll have to second what CanadaRAM says... that's a good idea and makes a lot of sense
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I third that.

Although I'm curious by this statement:

CanadaRAM said:
Of course if she won't agree to meet you alone, then you have a much longer courtship ahead of you...
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Do you mean that like she doesn't want to be alone with me because she finds it uncomfortable or she's playing hard-to-get or...?

I'm hoping she'll come up to SF for New Year's or I'm going down there or something, her housemate and a couple other people were going to come up so I hope she joins them.

Oh, and thanx for the good luck wishes, I think i'm going to need it...
 
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