When my iPhone XS Max connects with my car's Bluetooth (2015 Subaru Forester), it automatically starts playing the Music app and if I don't want to listen I have to open the phone or the car's audio to pause/stop the music. I've looked and there are no settings I could find in the vehicle or the phone to prevent this. I could prevent this with settings on my Android phone but can't seem to with the iPhone (I'm new to the iPhone but not to iOS). Any suggestions other than disabling automatic Bluetooth connection with the car? I want the connection for phone and for music when I want it. The car head unit dose not support CarPlay.