I actually compared the three OS on memory, windows and MacOS are equally bad, and the M1 is not exceptional in most cases.
linux was a standout as usual, most surprising was how little memory chrome on Linux uses compared to Mac and windows, but thats digressing.
due to 16gb being way less than I need I have been spending a bit of time watching this.
hint 1, disable GPU acceleration in Lightroom. i could get 13GB of ram used within a minute using it, and about 3gb with GPU accel off, and no noticeable difference in performance.
lightroom is not alone with this anomaly, but it’s the worst I found.