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Does anyone else's significant other "borrow" their iPhone, even though they have their own?

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1981d

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So, me and my wife both have iPhones, and we both upgrade at the same time, so we both have the same generation. I have a 7+ and she has a 7. Anyhoo, at least once a day I go to where I last left my phone and it's gone. I look over and my wife has it, surfing the web or checking facebook, with her phone sitting right next to her. When we are out and about, she will usually ask to use my phone to look up directions or respond to a group text we are both on.

I tried to explain to her that our phones are bacially the same (in the past they were the same) and she could use her own phone for all these tasks, but it doesn't seem to matter. Basically, anytime we are together, she always seems to prefer to use my phone instead of hers, at least until my battery dies. Of course, once my phone is dead she urgently needs hers lol. Sometimes it feels like she has 2 phones and I have none.

Does anyone else's significant other seem to prefer your iPhone, even though theirs is perfectly fine?
 
No, I don't have this happen.

My wife respects my privacy. She has never used my phone unless I have handed it to her so she can see something specific. She does not go through my things or my wallet or anything else.

She respects my privacy and I respect hers. And if I was not the type to respect her privacy there would have been hell to pay a long time ago. She jealously guards her things and if anyone is caught with them (including our kids) without permission they are in for it.

Next year will be 20 years of marriage.
 
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Question is, why is your phone not locked and if it is, why does she know the code? Sorry but that **** wouldn't fly with me. Marriage or not. Don't touch my stuff unless you ask.

Also, this is a sign of insecurity. You can test that by locking it or changing the code and not giving it to her. When she questions it and gets pissed, you have your answer. An actual adult wouldn't do this. This is more of the 20's and under crowd.
 
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Some "interesting" generalizations and applications of different personal attributes to others even already, and all with only just a few replies in the thread so far. Everyone is different and everyone's relationships are different--what works for some doesn't work for others, what's typical for some can be unusual for others, and so on and so forth. Fairly basic reality in play here.
 
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AbSoluTc said:
Question is, why is your phone not locked and if it is, why does she know the code? Sorry but that **** wouldn't fly with me. Marriage or not. Don't touch my stuff unless you ask.

Also, this is a sign of insecurity. You can test that by locking it or changing the code and not giving it to her. When she questions it and gets pissed, you have your answer. An actual adult wouldn't do this. This is more of the 20's and under crowd.
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My wife knows my code and I know her code, but we don't share iPhones unless we need to. Refusing to give your significant others your code is actually a sign of insecurity.

The OP has the correct attitude. All he needs to do is get his wife the Plus because she's obviously preferring it over her 4.7" model, rather than checking on him, etc.
 
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Dude, that woman is making sure that you're not cheating or doing something up to no good. You must be giving off some bad vibes.

That's why when my wife ask for mine I do not even hesitate. And if I was a cheating liar sack of crap I'm not dumb enough to do dirt on my primary phone.
 
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AbSoluTc said:
Question is, why is your phone not locked and if it is, why does she know the code? Sorry but that **** wouldn't fly with me. Marriage or not. Don't touch my stuff unless you ask.

Also, this is a sign of insecurity. You can test that by locking it or changing the code and not giving it to her. When she questions it and gets pissed, you have your answer. An actual adult wouldn't do this. This is more of the 20's and under crowd.
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My wife knows my passcode and I know hers, nothing to hide from each other. I don't go prying in her phone and she hasn't mine though she's quite welcome to, she doesn't seem interested in the random crap I am :D

She does however regularly pinch my iPad Pro to draw on. Despite her still saying she'd never own one bigger than her iPad Mini, she seems happy enough to use mine. I think she should just get her own bloody Pro :D I kid of course, I'm not such a spoiled brat I don't let her play with my toys ;) Not that I'm suggesting anyone else is, just me.
 
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AbSoluTc said:
Question is, why is your phone not locked and if it is, why does she know the code? Sorry but that **** wouldn't fly with me. Marriage or not. Don't touch my stuff unless you ask.

Also, this is a sign of insecurity. You can test that by locking it or changing the code and not giving it to her. When she questions it and gets pissed, you have your answer. An actual adult wouldn't do this. This is more of the 20's and under crowd.
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I think you're painting way too broadly here. I mean maybe I just barely missed you're 20's and under" statement st the age of 31, but just about everything I own isn't mine. It's ours.

She does tend to ask for something like my phone or wallet. But I never think twice. Maybe it helps we've been together almost longer than we haven't?

Fwiw it's not like she's checking texts or emails. She wants to look something up or input something in the gps or what have you. Insecurity to me would be thebwife that immediately browsed through your texts. I know she doesn't care because we share an Apple ID (yes I know about family sharing and it's too annoying to change what's been the same for like eight years) and when we set up a new phone she always clicks through settings and set duo my iMessage to go to her. She is immediately annoyed and tells me to turn it off. Lol
 
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She says she doesn't want a plus, but she sure does seem to like mine:rolleyes:

We are very open with each other, both have 1 fingerprint on the other's phone. Lol, it seems paranoid but neither one of us checks up on the other, we are together all the time anyway. I actually think it may be a learned behavior from when we were dating. She used to have an HTC Thunderbolt that couldn't hold a charge, basically needed an extension cord to function. So when we were dating she always was using my phone because hers was dead. Luckily someone did her a favor and stole the thing, so I bought her an iPhone.
 
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1981d said:
She says she doesn't want a plus, but she sure does seem to like mine
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My wife likes the screen real estate until she needs to lug it around. She then quickly realizes thinner, lighter, and overall smaller are all things she prefers about her phone.

She actually got the 7 and I stayed with the 6s plus and she has taken my phone a few times since haha.
 
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My GF never takes my phone, but my iPad.....wait I mean HER iPad.....that's a different story.
 
Constantly. My lady will be sitting right by her phone and say to me "give me your phone so I can order take out" or, "let me see that for a second. I need to look something up on Wikipedia."
 
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lordofthereef said:
My wife takes mine because it's always in my pocket. Hers is always somewhere... else lol. Just about the only time she has it in her person is at work or when we are in the car together.
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My wife's phone inhabits some rather bizarre places in the house. Just like her glasses however, she often forgets where she sets it down. I have to wonder what it was she was doing for her phone (or glasses) to be set down where I find them. So I mentally record it's location if I run across it in case she forgets where it is…again.

That said, she uses her own phone. Infrequently I will have to call her so the phone goes off and she can find it.

She does not know my code, but that is not because I refuse to give it to her. She just does not use my phone. She uses hers and if she leaves it at home she tends to wait until we get back to use it.

I do know her code though, but that's only because I am my household's IT person. So, I know all the passwords and codes for a wide range of devices and computers because I set them up for her and our kids.

But I was taught to respect other people's property so permission is always asked.

I have been told by my wife however, that next time we upgrade she wants the plus model.
 
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My fiancé and I pretty freely exchange phones. We've done this since we had Blackberries. Often he wants me to look up directions on his phone or he wants me to call or text someone. I give him my phone to call or text someone if I'm driving. Or one of us wants to show the other a funny picture or video on facebook. We don't even bother with passwords since our phones get passed back and forth so much. He doesn't even bother with Touch ID in his 6s, but I would if I had one (wish I could use Apple Pay!). And that's not to say that none of our devices have passwords. Both of our laptops do. The problem is, we made them complex to keep roommates off, and now we only know our own.
 
HippieMagic said:
This is exactly how you end up with 400 posts on facebook about how beautiful and amazing your loving and caring wife is...
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You think that's bad, I've had Facebook for years, never used it. When I first met my wife, then girlfriend obviously, she didn't have Facebook or a computer for that matter so I said she could just use mine to chat with her friends.

Fast forward seven years and she still uses mine, not that I care. I just can't help but think with all the handbags and makeup type crap, I think that's what it is, could be candles for all I know about makeup or candles for that matter :p Anyone who I've not spoke to for a while must think I've gone transgender or something, not that I'm saying there's anything wrong with that. But if you knew me you'd know it just seems veeeeerrry unlikely for me, I'd love to see the looks on their faces :D
 
TrueBlou said:
You think that's bad, I've had Facebook for years, never used it. When I first met my wife, then girlfriend obviously, she didn't have Facebook or a computer for that matter so I said she could just use mine to chat with her friends.

Fast forward seven years and she still uses mine, not that I care. I just can't help but think with all the handbags and makeup type crap, I think that's what it is, could be candles for all I know about makeup or candles for that matter :p Anyone who I've not spoke to for a while must think I've gone transgender or something, not that I'm saying there's anything wrong with that. But if you knew me you'd know it just seems veeeeerrry unlikely for me, I'd love to see the looks on their faces :D
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That's a funny story, but why not just change the name to hers in FB settings?
 
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