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Each person has their own definition of it and I don't think anyone should be judged based on that. The point is women don't dress just to attract men, even when they wear heels and a mini skirt.
Another thing to keep in mind is that what a women wears looks different depending on her figure. A curvy girl in a mini-skirt looks sexier/sluttier than a girl with no curves wearing the same skirt. A flat chested girl with a halter top doesn't look as sexy/slutty as a girl with big boobs wearing the same top. Still, they will be judged differently on how they look even though they're wearing the exact same thing.
Probably closer to "good girl". I'd post up some examples of what I'm talking about, but I'm at work, and I really don't want to venture into that area while they log my internet activity.
I'm in my late 20s and finding girls w/ low drama and baggage has become an increasing challenge. I hate the ***** Bay Area, it's a damn big sausage fest lol.
Seriously, are decent girls so damn hard to find in California?
Perhaps the girls in CA (what a crazy generalization) don't want to bother with dudes who end sentences with "lol".
What is that anyway?
Born and raised in CA and only just moved back east, I can tell you that the level of crap is all over the globe you just have to weave through it. I know it took me quite a long time to find the one who matters and while that still puts me in the ranks among the single people ... I'm comfortable in knowing that someone exists even if they're unaware that I exist.
That being said, it's about how you carry yourself. You seem like drama so that is what you'll attract.
Long trip?
I can tell you that the level of crap is all over the globe you just have to weave through it. I know it took me quite a long time to find the one who matters and while that still puts me in the ranks among the single people ... I'm comfortable in knowing that someone exists even if they're unaware that I exist.
Ugh. You're not one of those "soulmate" people, are you?
BTW, to the TS. One way of avoiding drama is to avoid relationships.
You can have plenty of drama (and baggage) without entering into any external relationship. Most of us have enough dramas in our lives simply from mediating the competition between our various selves.
Okay, I'll be more specific. Avoid relationship drama by avoiding relationships.
Look for the following signs that you might be involved in a relationship:
- She calls to see what you're up to when she knows you're not going to be hanging out with her.
- She e-mails you to tell you about her day.
- She talks to you about her family as if you know them.
- She texts you more than 5 times a day about inane crap.
- She leaves stuff at your place.
- She wants to know what "we're" having for dinner. At 7am.
- Etc, et al
If more than three of these are taking place, there is only one solution: Run. GET OUT. You can avoid most of the drama and what little there is will be a lot less compared to what you will have to go through to get out later.
And Skunk, might I suggest an exorcism or three? It's much easier not to have any internal conflict if you're cold, soulless and have no compassion or pity.
I'm in my late 20s and finding girls w/ low drama and baggage has become an increasing challenge. I hate the ***** Bay Area, it's a damn big sausage fest lol.
Seriously, are decent girls so damn hard to find in California?
A common criticism leveled at the Bay Area (at least within the Bay Area) is that, male or female, there are generally only two sorts of prospective partners: workaholics and serial monogamists. One's the sort of person you might want to go out with, but s/he just doesn't have the time. The other is the sort you don't ever have the chance to know if you'd want to date, because in the time it takes to consider that, s/he's already off the market. It is vaguely possible we are breeding for shallow extroversion here.
I haven't much had time to validate this myself, except ipso facto anecdotally.
That's a buncha bunk.
"I don't have the time" is just another way of saying "I can't make it work," because for every person who is "too busy," there's another person out there with the same job and is just as busy, if not more busy, yet manages well with a spouse and kids.
No one's job is such that they don't have time. It's a convenient excuse when you just don't want to admit to yourself that you've de-prioritized that aspect of life. There's nothing inherently wrong with that, if that's what you choose. People just need to stop pretending it's anything but personal choice that they're not engaging in meaningful relationships.
Wrong turn.
I'm none of those people.
I'm deeply in love with my electronics.
You seem to have written this under the supposition that I would generally disagree with any of that. "I don't have the time" is, however, the common refrain. They wouldn't be called "workaholics" if it were healthy.
With that said, I do know more than one person who has lost or jeopardized a relationship over a busy time at work that simply was not optional at the time. If you don't like it, there are plenty of barista jobs in town where the hours are nice and steady. May heaven help you if you're one of those poor suckers who dreams of creating video games for a living.
Why, conquering the world and remaking it in you image, of course.
This will all become blindingly obvious the moment you sell your soul.
Even if you find one, how will you afford her. You folks in Calif. are broke.I'm in my late 20s and finding girls w/ low drama and baggage has become an increasing challenge. I hate the ***** Bay Area, it's a damn big sausage fest lol.
Seriously, are decent girls so damn hard to find in California?
It was more of a general purpose rant and wasn't directed at you - I did notice you were referring to other people and not yourself. One way or another, that wasn't my intention and I apologize if it came across that way.