Apple Home.
Apple has INUNDATED me and my spouse, multiple times daily, in the middle of the night, early in the morning, “notifying” me that my Home is going to be updated. I KNOW. I READ THE NOTIFICATION THE FIRST TIME. As far as I’m concerned, this is no longer a ‘notification’, it is an ‘advertisement’ for more Apple products, because they’re even willing to TELL me that I have to purchase new Apple products because my older products will stop working. Well, so may a few of my once-HomeKit-compatible devices! But they don’t bother to tell me that, or which ones.
Therefore… I’ve CHOSEN, since the first notification I got, to ride the current solution out UNTIL Apple forces me off of it. A working home is a happy home. But that hasn’t stopped the advertising! So clearly I’m NOT in “full control over notifications”, as I cannot turn Home notifications OFF because being notified of certain events is INTRINSIC to the premise of the ecosystem. What I do NOT need is to be continually told what I already know.
I don’t happen to think Apple’s abuse of their own rules is rare at all, they do it unabashedly. Just my experience.