Sorry to be blunt, but tough. Anyone who can believe some of these scams needs to take a deep breath. There are so many reports of e-bay scams on the net, and these people are raking it in. I think you will find that when they say that you can put the money in someone else's name this is because they don't actually need a lot of ID to pick it up, it is password protected.
For example, you send Mike Smith the money, but put it into an account for Steve Jones. You give Mike the Password 123456 so he can check the money is there. When he goes to make the collection, he just needs the password - anyone could make fake ID and a password is much more secure. Now he has your money, he moves on to the next victim.
When they seem to be a really nice e-bayer who has traded loads of times, I bet the values are noway near the value of what they are now selling. Usually they will have several items for thousands of dollars each. They have stolen this valid ID. Everything else that the genuine person sold would have been from the registered address, say New York for example. Suddenly this person is supplying direct from the UK, but from Italy, and you need to contact them via a different email address.
There are some genuine bargains on e-bay, but anything that seems like an amazing offer will most certainly be a scam. I went on a campaign a few months back with regular communications to e-bay informing them of these scammers. I successfully got over 200 of these fake auctions removed, and was informed that several agencies across the US and Europe were now taking these issues rather more seriously.
A genuine e-bayer will always be more than happy to work with you, and will not make rules that you won't be happy with.
Be careful guys, so many people have lost so much money.